Gf dosent want to be sexualised /u/kupanbob Sex

I have super high libido, she has low. Main reason her libido is low, is from trauma, and guys in general sexualising her, and exactly using her for her body. We have been together for 2 years, and I haven’t shown or given her anything else but love outside the bedroom. We rarely have sex and whenever I’m into her/ giving her a compliment I just can’t stop feeling like a creep, even tho I’m just super in love and find her super attractive aswell. The other day I masturbated next to her which never happens, and she instantly, said we can definitely not do this often, which just made me feel even worse. She dosent really respect my needs and tend to just think I think bad of her in the sexual needs cause of her trauma. How can we fix this, how can I feel safe with giving her compliments etc, I hate it. And maybe a sex therapist could help her or a book idk?

I have super high libido, she has low. Main reason her libido is low, is from trauma, and guys in general sexualising her, and exactly using her for her body. We have been together for 2 years, and I haven’t shown or given her anything else but love outside the bedroom. We rarely have sex and whenever I’m into her/ giving her a compliment I just can’t stop feeling like a creep, even tho I’m just super in love and find her super attractive aswell. The other day I masturbated next to her which never happens, and she instantly, said we can definitely not do this often, which just made me feel even worse. She dosent really respect my needs and tend to just think I think bad of her in the sexual needs cause of her trauma. How can we fix this, how can I feel safe with giving her compliments etc, I hate it. And maybe a sex therapist could help her or a book idk?