could someone with experience with threesomes tell me how to work this? /u/massagesncoffee Sex

Finacee and I were talking about a threesome. The thing is that I would be down for sleeping with another couple, a guy and a girl. He could have the girl and i wouldnt really have to be involved, and i could have the guy and he wouldnt have to be overly involved. But he says that’s overly complicated and he isn’t into it.

But like watching him sleep with another girl while I what? Half heartedly try to get myself off? I don’t want her touching me I can tell you that much. Maybe he could finger me while he sleeps with her, but hes not very good at that so that sounds all around uncomfortable for me. Not to mention my body image issues from lots and lots and lots of childhood trauma about weight. so not only would the actual event be boring at best for me if im lucky, but im a little worried that i would end up relapsing with my ED or spiral with my mental health if i end up perceiving her as prettier than i am. Its not healthy but at my heart of hearts i am competitive by nature. Plus yeah I don’t see myself as having any role I would enjoy? I would be open to eating her out maybe as long as she doesn’t try to eat me out. I don’t think it would be fun to touch her, but the thought of it doesn’t make me feel sick the way the thought of her touching me back does.

I’m really struggling to see how this would functionality work. But I hate to say no because my fiancees friends gf let’s him have threesomes, and the same competitive nature that makes me afraid of how I will compare myself to the other girl, also makes it hard to know that fiancees friends are getting things from their gfs that my fiancee isn’t able to get from me. Like I said, competitive spirit.

Finacee and I were talking about a threesome. The thing is that I would be down for sleeping with another couple, a guy and a girl. He could have the girl and i wouldnt really have to be involved, and i could have the guy and he wouldnt have to be overly involved. But he says that’s overly complicated and he isn’t into it.

But like watching him sleep with another girl while I what? Half heartedly try to get myself off? I don’t want her touching me I can tell you that much. Maybe he could finger me while he sleeps with her, but hes not very good at that so that sounds all around uncomfortable for me. Not to mention my body image issues from lots and lots and lots of childhood trauma about weight. so not only would the actual event be boring at best for me if im lucky, but im a little worried that i would end up relapsing with my ED or spiral with my mental health if i end up perceiving her as prettier than i am. Its not healthy but at my heart of hearts i am competitive by nature. Plus yeah I don’t see myself as having any role I would enjoy? I would be open to eating her out maybe as long as she doesn’t try to eat me out. I don’t think it would be fun to touch her, but the thought of it doesn’t make me feel sick the way the thought of her touching me back does.

I’m really struggling to see how this would functionality work. But I hate to say no because my fiancees friends gf let’s him have threesomes, and the same competitive nature that makes me afraid of how I will compare myself to the other girl, also makes it hard to know that fiancees friends are getting things from their gfs that my fiancee isn’t able to get from me. Like I said, competitive spirit.