Throw away because my friends know my screen name. Together for 8 years. Overall good communication with our wants and needs. But this seems to be a brick wall. To broke right now for therapy after we just got a house last year. So about 6 weeks ago my SO said that me initiating sex with back-rubs, doing her half of the chores, cooking special dinners or after date night was making her feel as if it was transactional. She asked me to slow down. So I did.Thing is she said long ago that’s what helped her relax to get into the mood. So I continued doing and cooking, date night but stopped back-rubs and extra chores. I only initiated twice in the 1st 3 weeks. Shot down twice. So I helped myself the rest of the time. She was crying in bed when I came to bed late 3 days ago. She asked if I still loved her and if i thought she was ugly now. I told I love her so much and she is as beautiful as the day I meet her. We cuddled and fell asleep. She still refuses to talk about it and just sleeps and goes to work. I need advice or some book to tell me what to because I’m at a loss of what to do.
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r/sex Throw away because my friends know my screen name. Together for 8 years. Overall good communication with our wants and needs. But this seems to be a brick wall. To broke right now for therapy after we just got a house last year. So about 6 weeks ago my SO said that me initiating sex with back-rubs, doing her half of the chores, cooking special dinners or after date night was making her feel as if it was transactional. She asked me to slow down. So I did.Thing is she said long ago that’s what helped her relax to get into the mood. So I continued doing and cooking, date night but stopped back-rubs and extra chores. I only initiated twice in the 1st 3 weeks. Shot down twice. So I helped myself the rest of the time. She was crying in bed when I came to bed late 3 days ago. She asked if I still loved her and if i thought she was ugly now. I told I love her so much and she is as beautiful as the day I meet her. We cuddled and fell asleep. She still refuses to talk about it and just sleeps and goes to work. I need advice or some book to tell me what to because I’m at a loss of what to do. submitted by /u/confusedbedroom9 [link] [comments]
Throw away because my friends know my screen name. Together for 8 years. Overall good communication with our wants and needs. But this seems to be a brick wall. To broke right now for therapy after we just got a house last year. So about 6 weeks ago my SO said that me initiating sex with back-rubs, doing her half of the chores, cooking special dinners or after date night was making her feel as if it was transactional. She asked me to slow down. So I did.Thing is she said long ago that’s what helped her relax to get into the mood. So I continued doing and cooking, date night but stopped back-rubs and extra chores. I only initiated twice in the 1st 3 weeks. Shot down twice. So I helped myself the rest of the time. She was crying in bed when I came to bed late 3 days ago. She asked if I still loved her and if i thought she was ugly now. I told I love her so much and she is as beautiful as the day I meet her. We cuddled and fell asleep. She still refuses to talk about it and just sleeps and goes to work. I need advice or some book to tell me what to because I’m at a loss of what to do.
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