I feel insecure at times, after care? /u/Serenitei Sex

Hi guys. Just wondering if I could ask if it’s normal to feel insecure/upset about these things that my partner does.

He’s very busy man. Always fully booked with plans, busy with work etc. yet he still never fails to make time for me. He always initiates things, plan things etc. he’s the one that gives more love for me than I give him (actions wise). I really appreciate that.

But sometimes I go on a date, hang out at his house and sometimes he’d go on his phone (to reply/respond work related, social media etc.) so he doesn’t respond to what I say. Once or twice is okay but it occurs often sometimes and I feel sad but I try to let it go.

Or he’d have to deal with work/study at times so I’d just be on his bed doing my things, or taking a nap while he does other things. It feels somewhat sad and lonely to be alone even though I know why.

Meanwhile I try to make his workload better by doing the housework for him, cooking, cleaning etc. when I’m not asked to. This is the way I show my love for them, by giving them service or making them feel less stressed bout other things when they’re too occupied. But I feel as if he doesn’t validate my feelings. He’s not really great at verbally communicating things.

One time he had to practically run out, not give me any after care (after we had sex) because he was running late to somewhere. I felt as if I was being played. I understand most times he gives some sort of after care but I felt so.. weird. Like I really do like him and grow to like him more but these things, being a busy man makes me feel too insecure. I just wanna be cared for and be appreciated about what i did for him at least. I know I can’t be treated that way every single hour but… what are ways I can overcome this? Also is this kind of feeling normal?

TL;DR i feel insecure that my busy boyfriend fails to validate my feelings at times. Is this normal? Sometimes he doesn’t do after care after intimacy as well.

Hi guys. Just wondering if I could ask if it’s normal to feel insecure/upset about these things that my partner does.

He’s very busy man. Always fully booked with plans, busy with work etc. yet he still never fails to make time for me. He always initiates things, plan things etc. he’s the one that gives more love for me than I give him (actions wise). I really appreciate that.

But sometimes I go on a date, hang out at his house and sometimes he’d go on his phone (to reply/respond work related, social media etc.) so he doesn’t respond to what I say. Once or twice is okay but it occurs often sometimes and I feel sad but I try to let it go.

Or he’d have to deal with work/study at times so I’d just be on his bed doing my things, or taking a nap while he does other things. It feels somewhat sad and lonely to be alone even though I know why.

Meanwhile I try to make his workload better by doing the housework for him, cooking, cleaning etc. when I’m not asked to. This is the way I show my love for them, by giving them service or making them feel less stressed bout other things when they’re too occupied. But I feel as if he doesn’t validate my feelings. He’s not really great at verbally communicating things.

One time he had to practically run out, not give me any after care (after we had sex) because he was running late to somewhere. I felt as if I was being played. I understand most times he gives some sort of after care but I felt so.. weird. Like I really do like him and grow to like him more but these things, being a busy man makes me feel too insecure. I just wanna be cared for and be appreciated about what i did for him at least. I know I can’t be treated that way every single hour but… what are ways I can overcome this? Also is this kind of feeling normal?

TL;DR i feel insecure that my busy boyfriend fails to validate my feelings at times. Is this normal? Sometimes he doesn’t do after care after intimacy as well.