Mismatched libido with my boyfriend What can i do? /u/Capital-Context-5199 Sex

My boyfriend’s libido is quite low and my libido is high it’s making me question breaking up with him, what should i do?

My boyfriend (27 M) and I (25F) have been together for 2.5 years. In the first 6 months of our relationship, our sex life was good. We did it about 3x a week and I was quite happy with it. After about a year our sex life became less and less. There were times when we didn’t do it for 6 weeks. This bothered me a lot and I talked to him several times about why he’s not in the mood and if there is anything I can do. He says he is tired, he has a busy job and I do understand that. So a lot of times I would just go to sleep and call it a night.

Often when I made an effort to be intimate he would tell me he wasn’t in the mood. This did hurt my feelings because this happened regularly so I sometimes hesitate to try. We had discussed together not to put pressure on being intimate anymore and this worked for a while. It became about 1x in the week we were intimate rarely 2. But sadly this also became less over time and he would tell me it just didn’t cross his mind that we didn’t do it for a while. My boyfriend also said a while ago that he often argued in his previous relationship because he didn’t want to be intimate that often. I have tried to use toys myself to reduce my urges but this doesn’t work. I would like to feel wanted by my boyfriend. He says he does find me attractive and that it has nothing to do with that. He can get in the mood but I’m always the one who starts. I love my boyfriend very much, we laugh a lot together and understand each other in many other things.

But I have brought this up many times that this makes me feel sad and insecure. He keeps telling me that he will try to improve and doesn’t know it bothers me this much and I should try to use toys myself often because my libido is just much higher than his. We have tried to set a day to be intimate once a week but when it happens it’s always me who intiate and it makes me feel like he HAS to have sex with me. Once a week is not as much as I would like it to be but it is okay with me if he can meet me there. When I hear my friends talk about their intimate life I can’t help but feel jelous. When I go out with my friends and I get attention from men I feel awful that I seem to like it. This is something that is happening to me lately I used to reject attention from other men but lately I seem to like it and I feel like this might be because of the intimacy that i am missing and it makes me feel horrible.

I will never cheat and I have no intention to but I do miss my boyfriend making me feel like he wants me even though he tells me he loves me and do thinks I’m very attractive. I do love him very much and I would love for us to stay together but this issue keeps causing trouble, is there anything I can do? I have even considered using diffrent birth control to maybe reduce my high libido.

My boyfriend’s libido is quite low and my libido is high it’s making me question breaking up with him, what should i do?

My boyfriend (27 M) and I (25F) have been together for 2.5 years. In the first 6 months of our relationship, our sex life was good. We did it about 3x a week and I was quite happy with it. After about a year our sex life became less and less. There were times when we didn’t do it for 6 weeks. This bothered me a lot and I talked to him several times about why he’s not in the mood and if there is anything I can do. He says he is tired, he has a busy job and I do understand that. So a lot of times I would just go to sleep and call it a night.

Often when I made an effort to be intimate he would tell me he wasn’t in the mood. This did hurt my feelings because this happened regularly so I sometimes hesitate to try. We had discussed together not to put pressure on being intimate anymore and this worked for a while. It became about 1x in the week we were intimate rarely 2. But sadly this also became less over time and he would tell me it just didn’t cross his mind that we didn’t do it for a while. My boyfriend also said a while ago that he often argued in his previous relationship because he didn’t want to be intimate that often. I have tried to use toys myself to reduce my urges but this doesn’t work. I would like to feel wanted by my boyfriend. He says he does find me attractive and that it has nothing to do with that. He can get in the mood but I’m always the one who starts. I love my boyfriend very much, we laugh a lot together and understand each other in many other things.

But I have brought this up many times that this makes me feel sad and insecure. He keeps telling me that he will try to improve and doesn’t know it bothers me this much and I should try to use toys myself often because my libido is just much higher than his. We have tried to set a day to be intimate once a week but when it happens it’s always me who intiate and it makes me feel like he HAS to have sex with me. Once a week is not as much as I would like it to be but it is okay with me if he can meet me there. When I hear my friends talk about their intimate life I can’t help but feel jelous. When I go out with my friends and I get attention from men I feel awful that I seem to like it. This is something that is happening to me lately I used to reject attention from other men but lately I seem to like it and I feel like this might be because of the intimacy that i am missing and it makes me feel horrible.

I will never cheat and I have no intention to but I do miss my boyfriend making me feel like he wants me even though he tells me he loves me and do thinks I’m very attractive. I do love him very much and I would love for us to stay together but this issue keeps causing trouble, is there anything I can do? I have even considered using diffrent birth control to maybe reduce my high libido.