Husband says he doesn’t know he needed to satisfy me. /u/sissygirl8989 Sex

We have been married for 7 years, didnt have premarital sex. Its our 1st sexual partner for eachother. For 5 years, my husband never once satisfied me in bed. And he said he didn’t know he needed to satisfy me.

Sex is 1x a month or sometimes 1x every 2-3months.

I have told him “why don’t I get anything? You won’t satisfy me?” All he did was laugh it off. We don’t have foreplay. We would just watch porn and arouse ourselves. And once I feel I’m “ready”, we would have PIV sex. Sometimes it hurts cause I’m not wet enough. I’ve asked him to LUBE, but he said it’ll kill his sperms. Asked him to go down on me, he said he doesn’t want to do it. Which I didn’t want to force him too. (Nothing to do with hygiene) Asked him to at least finger me, he said I should do it to myself and find my own GSpot first.

I’m sexually frustrated. Once he has orgasmed, he would just use his phone. While I masturbate with a vibrator beside him.

Things he have said in bed to me: 1. Maybe I have vagnismus since it hurts (because I’m not wet enough. No I don’t think I have this) 2. I’m too tight for him 3. Im not as flexible as pornstars

This has hurt me and affected me, which resulted me in saying no to sex to him. I mean why do it when I don’t feel good? And thus, I’m thinking of divorcing as resentment has kicked in.

We have been married for 7 years, didnt have premarital sex. Its our 1st sexual partner for eachother. For 5 years, my husband never once satisfied me in bed. And he said he didn’t know he needed to satisfy me.

Sex is 1x a month or sometimes 1x every 2-3months.

I have told him “why don’t I get anything? You won’t satisfy me?” All he did was laugh it off. We don’t have foreplay. We would just watch porn and arouse ourselves. And once I feel I’m “ready”, we would have PIV sex. Sometimes it hurts cause I’m not wet enough. I’ve asked him to LUBE, but he said it’ll kill his sperms. Asked him to go down on me, he said he doesn’t want to do it. Which I didn’t want to force him too. (Nothing to do with hygiene) Asked him to at least finger me, he said I should do it to myself and find my own GSpot first.

I’m sexually frustrated. Once he has orgasmed, he would just use his phone. While I masturbate with a vibrator beside him.

Things he have said in bed to me: 1. Maybe I have vagnismus since it hurts (because I’m not wet enough. No I don’t think I have this) 2. I’m too tight for him 3. Im not as flexible as pornstars

This has hurt me and affected me, which resulted me in saying no to sex to him. I mean why do it when I don’t feel good? And thus, I’m thinking of divorcing as resentment has kicked in.