My husband (M34) and I (M30) have been married for about a year and a half. From the start I’ve known he was very kinky and initially thought I have similar interests. And I do, but just in a mild manner compared to him and I would be mostly happy entertaining my interests on a thought and video level. The reason I am dabbling into anything irl is him.
We don’t a lot of kinky things though mostly due to my insecurities and general uncomfortableness around sex and kink. I have read, watched videos, etc so so much on bondage and I just don’t seem to get over the mental roadblock no matter how much mental/emotional work I put into this.
We talked about this and he says that from his pov I may as well be extremely vanilla only and sees that as his partner I should be able to provide him to this need of his(mainly bondage). Knowing how big of a part of his life and self bdsm is, that kind of hurt me even if I can see where he’s coming from. He also sort of guilt tripped me about not being dominant in the bedroom, which I have never even claimed to be. But that would be another story so won’t go into that more.
TLDR Husband is way kinkier than I and it makes me feel guilty, I am afraid this is ruining our marriage
How do I get more kinky? How to get more self confidence especially sex and kink wise?
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r/sex My husband (M34) and I (M30) have been married for about a year and a half. From the start I’ve known he was very kinky and initially thought I have similar interests. And I do, but just in a mild manner compared to him and I would be mostly happy entertaining my interests on a thought and video level. The reason I am dabbling into anything irl is him. We don’t a lot of kinky things though mostly due to my insecurities and general uncomfortableness around sex and kink. I have read, watched videos, etc so so much on bondage and I just don’t seem to get over the mental roadblock no matter how much mental/emotional work I put into this. We talked about this and he says that from his pov I may as well be extremely vanilla only and sees that as his partner I should be able to provide him to this need of his(mainly bondage). Knowing how big of a part of his life and self bdsm is, that kind of hurt me even if I can see where he’s coming from. He also sort of guilt tripped me about not being dominant in the bedroom, which I have never even claimed to be. But that would be another story so won’t go into that more. TLDR Husband is way kinkier than I and it makes me feel guilty, I am afraid this is ruining our marriage How do I get more kinky? How to get more self confidence especially sex and kink wise? submitted by /u/Pure_Reaction9150 [link] [comments]
My husband (M34) and I (M30) have been married for about a year and a half. From the start I’ve known he was very kinky and initially thought I have similar interests. And I do, but just in a mild manner compared to him and I would be mostly happy entertaining my interests on a thought and video level. The reason I am dabbling into anything irl is him.
We don’t a lot of kinky things though mostly due to my insecurities and general uncomfortableness around sex and kink. I have read, watched videos, etc so so much on bondage and I just don’t seem to get over the mental roadblock no matter how much mental/emotional work I put into this.
We talked about this and he says that from his pov I may as well be extremely vanilla only and sees that as his partner I should be able to provide him to this need of his(mainly bondage). Knowing how big of a part of his life and self bdsm is, that kind of hurt me even if I can see where he’s coming from. He also sort of guilt tripped me about not being dominant in the bedroom, which I have never even claimed to be. But that would be another story so won’t go into that more.
TLDR Husband is way kinkier than I and it makes me feel guilty, I am afraid this is ruining our marriage
How do I get more kinky? How to get more self confidence especially sex and kink wise?
submitted by /u/Pure_Reaction9150
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