Every time we have sex, I pretty much just lay there and he does all the work. I feel selfish but I genuinely don’t know what to do. What can I start with? /u/Acrobatic_Month_1563 Sex

My boyfriend is great at sex and he’ll always start us off after cuddling the same way by getting me on my back and then sitting up between my legs and playing with me/going down on me while dirty talking me for a while before he goes in.

While we’re having sex, he does all the moving. I try to make it exciting for him by moaning and I’ll ask him to do different things like changing speed. I like doggy too so I tell him to flip me over and fuck me from behind. If I ask him to cum in my mouth, he’ll lay me backwards on the bed with my head dangling off and he’ll stand behind me and fuck my throat and I always swallow.

I know he enjoys it, but I feel so inactive and like a selfish lover when I just lay there and make demands based on what I want. When we’re cuddled up after, he’s always sweaty and tired from pumping me and I’m always fine.

It’s not that I don’t want to do things, it’s just that when he gets started there’s no opportunity for me to take control. The best thing I think would be for me to initiate and take control from the start but I’m only ever horny or in the mood once he starts warming me up. I’m also super shy with sex and he still makes me nervous as we’ve only been together a few months.

What can I do? Help!

My boyfriend is great at sex and he’ll always start us off after cuddling the same way by getting me on my back and then sitting up between my legs and playing with me/going down on me while dirty talking me for a while before he goes in.

While we’re having sex, he does all the moving. I try to make it exciting for him by moaning and I’ll ask him to do different things like changing speed. I like doggy too so I tell him to flip me over and fuck me from behind. If I ask him to cum in my mouth, he’ll lay me backwards on the bed with my head dangling off and he’ll stand behind me and fuck my throat and I always swallow.

I know he enjoys it, but I feel so inactive and like a selfish lover when I just lay there and make demands based on what I want. When we’re cuddled up after, he’s always sweaty and tired from pumping me and I’m always fine.

It’s not that I don’t want to do things, it’s just that when he gets started there’s no opportunity for me to take control. The best thing I think would be for me to initiate and take control from the start but I’m only ever horny or in the mood once he starts warming me up. I’m also super shy with sex and he still makes me nervous as we’ve only been together a few months.

What can I do? Help!