Hi guys. So I need advice. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 8 years. We met in high school, and started dating a few weeks after we met. I’ve always been terrified of the thought of having sex. I have been to my doctor about it to ask if it’s normal, because I know it’s not. And she doesn’t seem bothered. My boyfriend and I have tried to have sex before, but I’m so tense because of how scared I am, and that it hurts. I feel bad for not having sex with him since I know it’s an important thing in a relationship. How do I not be scared to do it ? Or make it hurt less ? Etc. I’ve tried lube, foreplay etc. I just am so tense & nervous. I believe I may have a fear of sex. Is anyone else like this? I just need reassurance that it’s okay.
Please don’t judge.
I’ve also heard people say “maybe because you were so young when you got together that you’ve been so used to a relationship without sex” But idk… I’m just terrified. Absolutely terrified even to think about sex.
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r/sex Hi guys. So I need advice. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 8 years. We met in high school, and started dating a few weeks after we met. I’ve always been terrified of the thought of having sex. I have been to my doctor about it to ask if it’s normal, because I know it’s not. And she doesn’t seem bothered. My boyfriend and I have tried to have sex before, but I’m so tense because of how scared I am, and that it hurts. I feel bad for not having sex with him since I know it’s an important thing in a relationship. How do I not be scared to do it ? Or make it hurt less ? Etc. I’ve tried lube, foreplay etc. I just am so tense & nervous. I believe I may have a fear of sex. Is anyone else like this? I just need reassurance that it’s okay. Please don’t judge. I’ve also heard people say “maybe because you were so young when you got together that you’ve been so used to a relationship without sex” But idk… I’m just terrified. Absolutely terrified even to think about sex. submitted by /u/gabbie_xo [link] [comments]
Hi guys. So I need advice. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 8 years. We met in high school, and started dating a few weeks after we met. I’ve always been terrified of the thought of having sex. I have been to my doctor about it to ask if it’s normal, because I know it’s not. And she doesn’t seem bothered. My boyfriend and I have tried to have sex before, but I’m so tense because of how scared I am, and that it hurts. I feel bad for not having sex with him since I know it’s an important thing in a relationship. How do I not be scared to do it ? Or make it hurt less ? Etc. I’ve tried lube, foreplay etc. I just am so tense & nervous. I believe I may have a fear of sex. Is anyone else like this? I just need reassurance that it’s okay.
Please don’t judge.
I’ve also heard people say “maybe because you were so young when you got together that you’ve been so used to a relationship without sex” But idk… I’m just terrified. Absolutely terrified even to think about sex.
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