My wife and I are both 34. Been together for 10 years and have 3 kids.
Before me, she had 1 LTR she had sex with and then a year of dating which resulted in a lot of dates but no actual PIV.
We’re actively trying to have sex more frequently (for last 5 years it was like once every 7-8 weeks, trying to get to ~2x/month now)
Issue is she has never had an Orgasm EVER
She grew up in a very repressive environment and has a lot of body issues (when we met she weighed like 110, today she still has baby weight is now like 130, I think she’s sexy AF regardless)
Anyway, we’ve bought toys etc but she’s not that into them and is just “shy” about sex. Lights off, 2 positions that’s her thing. She says “it feels good and I’m satisfied” but I’ve been with ~50 women…I know what satisfied looks like and this ain’t it.
On my end I’ve tried a lot of things: I hired a nanny (to lighten her load), I cook 100% of our kids meals, I take her on dates every 2 weeks like clockwork, I’ve been lifting and drinking protein powder b/c she’s self conscious that we are the same size.
Also $ is no object: she’s a SAHM and I have never once questioned a purchase. Idk what else she needs to be “less stressed”
The good news is we actually talk about sex now in a way we never did but the answer is always the same: she wants to want sex but just…doesn’t desire it.
Any ladies here who were “shy” about sex with advice?
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r/sex My wife and I are both 34. Been together for 10 years and have 3 kids. Before me, she had 1 LTR she had sex with and then a year of dating which resulted in a lot of dates but no actual PIV. We’re actively trying to have sex more frequently (for last 5 years it was like once every 7-8 weeks, trying to get to ~2x/month now) Issue is she has never had an Orgasm EVER She grew up in a very repressive environment and has a lot of body issues (when we met she weighed like 110, today she still has baby weight is now like 130, I think she’s sexy AF regardless) Anyway, we’ve bought toys etc but she’s not that into them and is just “shy” about sex. Lights off, 2 positions that’s her thing. She says “it feels good and I’m satisfied” but I’ve been with ~50 women…I know what satisfied looks like and this ain’t it. On my end I’ve tried a lot of things: I hired a nanny (to lighten her load), I cook 100% of our kids meals, I take her on dates every 2 weeks like clockwork, I’ve been lifting and drinking protein powder b/c she’s self conscious that we are the same size. Also $ is no object: she’s a SAHM and I have never once questioned a purchase. Idk what else she needs to be “less stressed” The good news is we actually talk about sex now in a way we never did but the answer is always the same: she wants to want sex but just…doesn’t desire it. Any ladies here who were “shy” about sex with advice? submitted by /u/littleguyricky [link] [comments]
My wife and I are both 34. Been together for 10 years and have 3 kids.
Before me, she had 1 LTR she had sex with and then a year of dating which resulted in a lot of dates but no actual PIV.
We’re actively trying to have sex more frequently (for last 5 years it was like once every 7-8 weeks, trying to get to ~2x/month now)
Issue is she has never had an Orgasm EVER
She grew up in a very repressive environment and has a lot of body issues (when we met she weighed like 110, today she still has baby weight is now like 130, I think she’s sexy AF regardless)
Anyway, we’ve bought toys etc but she’s not that into them and is just “shy” about sex. Lights off, 2 positions that’s her thing. She says “it feels good and I’m satisfied” but I’ve been with ~50 women…I know what satisfied looks like and this ain’t it.
On my end I’ve tried a lot of things: I hired a nanny (to lighten her load), I cook 100% of our kids meals, I take her on dates every 2 weeks like clockwork, I’ve been lifting and drinking protein powder b/c she’s self conscious that we are the same size.
Also $ is no object: she’s a SAHM and I have never once questioned a purchase. Idk what else she needs to be “less stressed”
The good news is we actually talk about sex now in a way we never did but the answer is always the same: she wants to want sex but just…doesn’t desire it.
Any ladies here who were “shy” about sex with advice?
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