need advice, I(27F) messed up with my SO(30m) /u/NotTheLost Sex

So, on Valentine’s Day my husband( of 5 years) and I were getting down and dirty with some Vday sex and I had to stop everything for a second because I was getting heavily overstimulated and overwhelmed. Now, my husband has a history of not taking constructive criticism well when we have sex and that’s something I’ve tried to work with him on, so when I told him I needed to stop for a second he got a little upset. I had told him a few minutes before that I was starting to get overwhelmed. His response to this really pulled me out of the mood and I told him I didn’t really want to keep going because the mood was kind of gone and I wasn’t feeling it anymore. We tried to talk it through but I felt like he just wasn’t listening and it started to turn into an argument. I feel like he doesn’t listen when I tell him I’m not in the mood for a particular sex act or that he needs to change up his technique and he generally responds by saying he knows what I like and to just let him try to keep going, and I know we struggle with communication alot and that’s something we are actively working on. He has mentioned that I’m not always very clear on what I’m trying to tell/ show him, and I am aware that is true and am trying to do better. Now I’m not really asking for help on that particular point, just providing context. As we continued to argue with me trying to explain that I can’t always predict how something is going to make me feel and that I really just needed a minute and that it wasn’t really fair that he would always get upset when I tried to tell him what I needed in bed. And here’s where the fuck up comes in. In my anger I told him he just didn’t know how to please a woman . Honestly, that wasn’t true but I was so frustrated trying to get him to hear what I was saying. He didn’t really bring that up again till the next day after we’d made up and talked it through. But now he says that his sexual confidence is really shaken and the thought of having sex makes him anxious. I apologized to the best of my ability but any sort of conversation around sex or even sexy jokes are met with uncomfortable looks and sadness. I really messed up here and I’m worried that I might’ve even further damaged our sex life. I don’t know how to fix this and I’m endlessly disgusted with myself for having said and done that to him. Any help or advise would be appreciated.

So, on Valentine’s Day my husband( of 5 years) and I were getting down and dirty with some Vday sex and I had to stop everything for a second because I was getting heavily overstimulated and overwhelmed. Now, my husband has a history of not taking constructive criticism well when we have sex and that’s something I’ve tried to work with him on, so when I told him I needed to stop for a second he got a little upset. I had told him a few minutes before that I was starting to get overwhelmed. His response to this really pulled me out of the mood and I told him I didn’t really want to keep going because the mood was kind of gone and I wasn’t feeling it anymore. We tried to talk it through but I felt like he just wasn’t listening and it started to turn into an argument. I feel like he doesn’t listen when I tell him I’m not in the mood for a particular sex act or that he needs to change up his technique and he generally responds by saying he knows what I like and to just let him try to keep going, and I know we struggle with communication alot and that’s something we are actively working on. He has mentioned that I’m not always very clear on what I’m trying to tell/ show him, and I am aware that is true and am trying to do better. Now I’m not really asking for help on that particular point, just providing context. As we continued to argue with me trying to explain that I can’t always predict how something is going to make me feel and that I really just needed a minute and that it wasn’t really fair that he would always get upset when I tried to tell him what I needed in bed. And here’s where the fuck up comes in. In my anger I told him he just didn’t know how to please a woman . Honestly, that wasn’t true but I was so frustrated trying to get him to hear what I was saying. He didn’t really bring that up again till the next day after we’d made up and talked it through. But now he says that his sexual confidence is really shaken and the thought of having sex makes him anxious. I apologized to the best of my ability but any sort of conversation around sex or even sexy jokes are met with uncomfortable looks and sadness. I really messed up here and I’m worried that I might’ve even further damaged our sex life. I don’t know how to fix this and I’m endlessly disgusted with myself for having said and done that to him. Any help or advise would be appreciated.