I kind of thought i had herpes in my mouth since college but was never really sure if they were just canker sores. they would only happen once in a few years. However i’ve had multiple long term partners in the past, and this has never happened before, so I guess I never took it as seriously as I should have, thinking that it wasn’t a big deal. Recently I got one in my mouth and was having sex with my girlfriend, and she asked me to spit on her to get her wetter. I did it without thinking (I had already pointed out to her that i had a cold sore and shown it to her). Afterwards, I got worried about it and brought it up to her, and we both agreed we should never do that again.
Fast forward a week, she has sores now and it’s confirmed herpes. We’re waiting on results for the type of herpes, but I assume it’s gonna be HSV-1. she is being very kind about it but is obviously extremely upset. A few questions: how will this affect us going forward? Will we have to always use a condom? Is there a risk that I could get it genitally even though I already have it orally?
I also am just a little lost emotionally and don’t really know how to cope with this. I feel like I hurt the person that I care the most about, and I am really having trouble forgiving myself for not being more careful. I was stupid and I should never have put her in this situation. I feel absolutely horrible. Would love any advice, or to hear from others who have been in a similar situation.
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r/sex I kind of thought i had herpes in my mouth since college but was never really sure if they were just canker sores. they would only happen once in a few years. However i’ve had multiple long term partners in the past, and this has never happened before, so I guess I never took it as seriously as I should have, thinking that it wasn’t a big deal. Recently I got one in my mouth and was having sex with my girlfriend, and she asked me to spit on her to get her wetter. I did it without thinking (I had already pointed out to her that i had a cold sore and shown it to her). Afterwards, I got worried about it and brought it up to her, and we both agreed we should never do that again. Fast forward a week, she has sores now and it’s confirmed herpes. We’re waiting on results for the type of herpes, but I assume it’s gonna be HSV-1. she is being very kind about it but is obviously extremely upset. A few questions: how will this affect us going forward? Will we have to always use a condom? Is there a risk that I could get it genitally even though I already have it orally? I also am just a little lost emotionally and don’t really know how to cope with this. I feel like I hurt the person that I care the most about, and I am really having trouble forgiving myself for not being more careful. I was stupid and I should never have put her in this situation. I feel absolutely horrible. Would love any advice, or to hear from others who have been in a similar situation. submitted by /u/the_new_throwaway13 [link] [comments]
I kind of thought i had herpes in my mouth since college but was never really sure if they were just canker sores. they would only happen once in a few years. However i’ve had multiple long term partners in the past, and this has never happened before, so I guess I never took it as seriously as I should have, thinking that it wasn’t a big deal. Recently I got one in my mouth and was having sex with my girlfriend, and she asked me to spit on her to get her wetter. I did it without thinking (I had already pointed out to her that i had a cold sore and shown it to her). Afterwards, I got worried about it and brought it up to her, and we both agreed we should never do that again.
Fast forward a week, she has sores now and it’s confirmed herpes. We’re waiting on results for the type of herpes, but I assume it’s gonna be HSV-1. she is being very kind about it but is obviously extremely upset. A few questions: how will this affect us going forward? Will we have to always use a condom? Is there a risk that I could get it genitally even though I already have it orally?
I also am just a little lost emotionally and don’t really know how to cope with this. I feel like I hurt the person that I care the most about, and I am really having trouble forgiving myself for not being more careful. I was stupid and I should never have put her in this situation. I feel absolutely horrible. Would love any advice, or to hear from others who have been in a similar situation.
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