At the risk of getting downvoted into the molten core of the Earth, I really need to figure out what’s going on here because I can’t stop thinking about this.
My straight friend was telling me about the awesome sex she’s having with her new bf and how she orgasms up to 20 times. That sounds absolutely fantastic of course and in theory, I know that some women are able to reach that number, but she was the first person that actually said 20 and I choked on my drink because I’m definitely not one of those women and neither were my previous partners.
We somehow got insanely drunk that night and ended up having sex. I couldn’t exactly understand what was going on when at some point she said that she needs a break because she already came like 15 times. I don’t want to invalidate her experience but my understanding of orgasm is that it’s something significantly more intense than what was happening to her. I would describe that as just… feeling good? Definitely not something explosive, but ok, every woman is different.
Anyway, a while later I was talking about this with my gay friend who said that she noticed this before when she occasionally hooked up with straight women but she never felt like it was the right moment to bring it up. In addition to that, another straight friend of mine actually said it herself in an unrelated conversation that she doesn’t ever experience orgasms of the same intensity when she’s having sex with her bf (comparing to masturbation) and that she basically counts everything that feels slightly more intense as an orgasm.
Did my friend fake it or is it possible that that’s really her definition of an orgasm? I tried asking her about it because it’s honestly whatever even if she did, but she’s acting weird because of what happened and I can’t get anything out of her. It doesn’t make sense that she would feel the need to do that with me because it was just a random thing but I’ve never experienced this with queer women. With the ones that were able to come a lot of times in a single session, it was always super clear what was going on.
If she did, is this in any way related to the pressure women feel to assure their male partners that they’re also enjoying themselves which leads to faking orgasms (there are plenty of men who are attentive to the needs of their female partners, I’m just bringing this up because it’s a well known issue)?
Regardless of sexual orientation, how intense does the feeling need to be so you count it as an orgasm?
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r/sex At the risk of getting downvoted into the molten core of the Earth, I really need to figure out what’s going on here because I can’t stop thinking about this. My straight friend was telling me about the awesome sex she’s having with her new bf and how she orgasms up to 20 times. That sounds absolutely fantastic of course and in theory, I know that some women are able to reach that number, but she was the first person that actually said 20 and I choked on my drink because I’m definitely not one of those women and neither were my previous partners. We somehow got insanely drunk that night and ended up having sex. I couldn’t exactly understand what was going on when at some point she said that she needs a break because she already came like 15 times. I don’t want to invalidate her experience but my understanding of orgasm is that it’s something significantly more intense than what was happening to her. I would describe that as just… feeling good? Definitely not something explosive, but ok, every woman is different. Anyway, a while later I was talking about this with my gay friend who said that she noticed this before when she occasionally hooked up with straight women but she never felt like it was the right moment to bring it up. In addition to that, another straight friend of mine actually said it herself in an unrelated conversation that she doesn’t ever experience orgasms of the same intensity when she’s having sex with her bf (comparing to masturbation) and that she basically counts everything that feels slightly more intense as an orgasm. Did my friend fake it or is it possible that that’s really her definition of an orgasm? I tried asking her about it because it’s honestly whatever even if she did, but she’s acting weird because of what happened and I can’t get anything out of her. It doesn’t make sense that she would feel the need to do that with me because it was just a random thing but I’ve never experienced this with queer women. With the ones that were able to come a lot of times in a single session, it was always super clear what was going on. If she did, is this in any way related to the pressure women feel to assure their male partners that they’re also enjoying themselves which leads to faking orgasms (there are plenty of men who are attentive to the needs of their female partners, I’m just bringing this up because it’s a well known issue)? Regardless of sexual orientation, how intense does the feeling need to be so you count it as an orgasm? submitted by /u/solesraf [link] [comments]
At the risk of getting downvoted into the molten core of the Earth, I really need to figure out what’s going on here because I can’t stop thinking about this.
My straight friend was telling me about the awesome sex she’s having with her new bf and how she orgasms up to 20 times. That sounds absolutely fantastic of course and in theory, I know that some women are able to reach that number, but she was the first person that actually said 20 and I choked on my drink because I’m definitely not one of those women and neither were my previous partners.
We somehow got insanely drunk that night and ended up having sex. I couldn’t exactly understand what was going on when at some point she said that she needs a break because she already came like 15 times. I don’t want to invalidate her experience but my understanding of orgasm is that it’s something significantly more intense than what was happening to her. I would describe that as just… feeling good? Definitely not something explosive, but ok, every woman is different.
Anyway, a while later I was talking about this with my gay friend who said that she noticed this before when she occasionally hooked up with straight women but she never felt like it was the right moment to bring it up. In addition to that, another straight friend of mine actually said it herself in an unrelated conversation that she doesn’t ever experience orgasms of the same intensity when she’s having sex with her bf (comparing to masturbation) and that she basically counts everything that feels slightly more intense as an orgasm.
Did my friend fake it or is it possible that that’s really her definition of an orgasm? I tried asking her about it because it’s honestly whatever even if she did, but she’s acting weird because of what happened and I can’t get anything out of her. It doesn’t make sense that she would feel the need to do that with me because it was just a random thing but I’ve never experienced this with queer women. With the ones that were able to come a lot of times in a single session, it was always super clear what was going on.
If she did, is this in any way related to the pressure women feel to assure their male partners that they’re also enjoying themselves which leads to faking orgasms (there are plenty of men who are attentive to the needs of their female partners, I’m just bringing this up because it’s a well known issue)?
Regardless of sexual orientation, how intense does the feeling need to be so you count it as an orgasm?
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