There’s a lot going on here: is there something wrong with my (20F) vagina? /u/wrigleys-anonymous Sex

So for as long as I’ve been having sex, penetrative sex has only ever been uncomfortable and/or painful. A lot of the time it just feels like friction burn, or like this dull stinging, no matter how much foreplay we do or how much lube we use, or how slow we take it. I naturally get pretty wet (more than others, some have noted) and “open up” quite a bit so its not like my body isn’t responding properly, it just doesn’t feel any good. Sometimes insertion will feel vaguely pleasant then suddenly it fades and it’s just uncomfortable friction again, even in the same spots that felt good at first.

I’ve looked it up but I don’t have any of the symptoms of stuff like endometreosis or any STDs. This also happens with sex toys on my own, so it’s not like it’s anything my partner’s doing. I’m very communicative with him and we use a lot of toys to make sure we’re both enjoying sex, so it’s not a massive problem and I know there are other things we can do, but I would really love to enjoy the penetration side of sex too. At the very least I’d rather that it didn’t just hurt, even if I can’t get any direct pleasure out of it.

I know a lot of people can’t orgasm from penetration alone, and I know some folks don’t enjoy being penetrated that much either, but this feels like it’s really complicating a part of my life that should just be enjoyable and fun.

Can anyone offer any advice at all? Some tips? Or any idea as to what might be going wrong here?

EDIT: This isn’t a recent development, it was like this the very first time I experienced penetration a long long time ago and has been like this every other time too. I’m not here to purposely diagnose myself with anything, I just wanted to know if anyone else had experienced anything like this and whether there was a way to deal with it. After reading some comments I’m planning on getting in touch with a gyno, but I guess I was just hoping to find some comfort that my vagina isn’t just broken. It can be kind of embarrassing and limiting, so please be polite.

So for as long as I’ve been having sex, penetrative sex has only ever been uncomfortable and/or painful. A lot of the time it just feels like friction burn, or like this dull stinging, no matter how much foreplay we do or how much lube we use, or how slow we take it. I naturally get pretty wet (more than others, some have noted) and “open up” quite a bit so its not like my body isn’t responding properly, it just doesn’t feel any good. Sometimes insertion will feel vaguely pleasant then suddenly it fades and it’s just uncomfortable friction again, even in the same spots that felt good at first.

I’ve looked it up but I don’t have any of the symptoms of stuff like endometreosis or any STDs. This also happens with sex toys on my own, so it’s not like it’s anything my partner’s doing. I’m very communicative with him and we use a lot of toys to make sure we’re both enjoying sex, so it’s not a massive problem and I know there are other things we can do, but I would really love to enjoy the penetration side of sex too. At the very least I’d rather that it didn’t just hurt, even if I can’t get any direct pleasure out of it.

I know a lot of people can’t orgasm from penetration alone, and I know some folks don’t enjoy being penetrated that much either, but this feels like it’s really complicating a part of my life that should just be enjoyable and fun.

Can anyone offer any advice at all? Some tips? Or any idea as to what might be going wrong here?

EDIT: This isn’t a recent development, it was like this the very first time I experienced penetration a long long time ago and has been like this every other time too. I’m not here to purposely diagnose myself with anything, I just wanted to know if anyone else had experienced anything like this and whether there was a way to deal with it. After reading some comments I’m planning on getting in touch with a gyno, but I guess I was just hoping to find some comfort that my vagina isn’t just broken. It can be kind of embarrassing and limiting, so please be polite.