Partner has a hard time finishing since I gave birth /u/Business-Brick1108 Sex

Since giving birth it always takes my partner a really long time and a lot of position changing to finish. I’ve lost all the weight I gained during pregnancy and I know I don’t look exactly the same as before but it still makes me very self-conscious.

I’ve been doing pelvic floor exercises and bought kegel weights in case it was postpartum looseness. I’ve asked and he laughed the first time and admitted it felt different then a few weeks later said everything felt the same when I asked about him having trouble finishing.

The fact that it’s even during oral makes me think it might just be that he doesn’t like the way I look anymore. My boobs aren’t quite as perky and I have a tiny “mom pouch” but I honestly didn’t think it was that bad and I’m usually very critical of myself.

I know he has a type because I’ve seen the petite girls he likes to look at when he’s viewing porn. He also watched a lot of porn the last few months of my pregnancy and then a few months postpartum because I was just too self conscious and I’m sure he wasn’t interested because I looked terrible from the weight gain and bloating. This doesn’t bother me as I’ve never thought porn has anything to do with your partner, but the fact that we definitely had a preference and this is the first time we’ve had this problem makes me wonder if it’s because of the way I look now.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has dealt with this and how they addressed it?

Since giving birth it always takes my partner a really long time and a lot of position changing to finish. I’ve lost all the weight I gained during pregnancy and I know I don’t look exactly the same as before but it still makes me very self-conscious.

I’ve been doing pelvic floor exercises and bought kegel weights in case it was postpartum looseness. I’ve asked and he laughed the first time and admitted it felt different then a few weeks later said everything felt the same when I asked about him having trouble finishing.

The fact that it’s even during oral makes me think it might just be that he doesn’t like the way I look anymore. My boobs aren’t quite as perky and I have a tiny “mom pouch” but I honestly didn’t think it was that bad and I’m usually very critical of myself.

I know he has a type because I’ve seen the petite girls he likes to look at when he’s viewing porn. He also watched a lot of porn the last few months of my pregnancy and then a few months postpartum because I was just too self conscious and I’m sure he wasn’t interested because I looked terrible from the weight gain and bloating. This doesn’t bother me as I’ve never thought porn has anything to do with your partner, but the fact that we definitely had a preference and this is the first time we’ve had this problem makes me wonder if it’s because of the way I look now.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has dealt with this and how they addressed it?