I told him how I felt and he never worked on not finishing quickly which made me feel used for sex /u/randomchicken12 Sex

21f and I dated my most recent ex early last year. The first time we had sex with a condom, although he had a big dick, he finished very quickly (under 5 mins). We then both got STI tested and started having condomless sex and he finished even quicker (2 mins or so). It bothered me as it didn’t leave me anytime to enjoy sex with him and he also lacked rhythm and it felt like he was just going in and out of me and then cumming in me after 2 mins. I told him about how I felt after we had sex 2-3 times. He promised to do better and focus on my pleasure and work to last longer and during sex going forward would say things like “oh it’s because your pussys too good”, “I’ve never had a pussy like this”, “what do you do” and I guess he was trying to make me feel better but it didn’t. He would apologize for not lasting long and said he was working on it, but he would continue pump and dump me, and when I would rub my clit during sex he would finish so quickly that it didn’t give me a chance to cum. And after he came that would be it for sexy time. Even with foreplay I would give him head (and even times I didn’t want to he would guilt me into it) and it always felt pleasurable for him and when he’d tell me to do it a certain way, I’d do it. When it came to him giving me head, he knew it wasn’t pleasurable for me because he wasn’t on the clit most of the time and he wouldn’t put any time into it or follow directions but he’d move on if he felt I was “wet” enough for penetration.

We’re no longer together but I genuinely just feel used because he continued to last for 2 mins literally and then roll over and go to sleep or move on to the next thing after he got his nut. My pleasure never mattered to him, and Ik it’s possible because I’ve been with partners who lasted longer or would cum and then give it another go or focus on me which never happened with him. I’m posting this because I’m wondering if this is a valid feeling and idk I guess I’m just mad at myself for continuing to but myself through it for months even though it genuinely never felt good.. just bc I thought I liked him so much and wanted to be in a relationship.

21f and I dated my most recent ex early last year. The first time we had sex with a condom, although he had a big dick, he finished very quickly (under 5 mins). We then both got STI tested and started having condomless sex and he finished even quicker (2 mins or so). It bothered me as it didn’t leave me anytime to enjoy sex with him and he also lacked rhythm and it felt like he was just going in and out of me and then cumming in me after 2 mins. I told him about how I felt after we had sex 2-3 times. He promised to do better and focus on my pleasure and work to last longer and during sex going forward would say things like “oh it’s because your pussys too good”, “I’ve never had a pussy like this”, “what do you do” and I guess he was trying to make me feel better but it didn’t. He would apologize for not lasting long and said he was working on it, but he would continue pump and dump me, and when I would rub my clit during sex he would finish so quickly that it didn’t give me a chance to cum. And after he came that would be it for sexy time. Even with foreplay I would give him head (and even times I didn’t want to he would guilt me into it) and it always felt pleasurable for him and when he’d tell me to do it a certain way, I’d do it. When it came to him giving me head, he knew it wasn’t pleasurable for me because he wasn’t on the clit most of the time and he wouldn’t put any time into it or follow directions but he’d move on if he felt I was “wet” enough for penetration.

We’re no longer together but I genuinely just feel used because he continued to last for 2 mins literally and then roll over and go to sleep or move on to the next thing after he got his nut. My pleasure never mattered to him, and Ik it’s possible because I’ve been with partners who lasted longer or would cum and then give it another go or focus on me which never happened with him. I’m posting this because I’m wondering if this is a valid feeling and idk I guess I’m just mad at myself for continuing to but myself through it for months even though it genuinely never felt good.. just bc I thought I liked him so much and wanted to be in a relationship.