Why is sex always disappointing? /u/19ang Sex

I’m (25F) seeing this new guy (28M) and I am very attracted to him. I love spending time with him and he does excite me sexually. We’ve been sexting, sharing fantasies, pictures etc and just getting each other very excited for when we have sex. He said it was going to be amazing and he was going to do all these wonderful things and make me feel great… but he just hasn’t. I get excited in that way when I am with him, but anything sexual is just not living up to what we had discussed or said was going to happen. I try my best to live up to what I said I would do, but he just doesn’t. It feels disappointing. He has started to touch me, then stops when I am getting close, which makes me feel an overwhelming sense of upset and frustration. I suddenly feel very depressed when this happens because it’s like a buildup and then it just stops. I don’t think he does this on purpose but I feel terrible asking him to continue. It just makes me angry. He gets his and I don’t get mine. Sex just always feels like a disappointment, especially since we’ve been discussing it for so long about what’s going to happen and our fantasies. Afterwards, I just feel a bit used and like it didn’t live up to my expectations. I really do like him a lot and we have good communication but I just don’t know what to do about this. Any advice?

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​r/sex I’m (25F) seeing this new guy (28M) and I am very attracted to him. I love spending time with him and he does excite me sexually. We’ve been sexting, sharing fantasies, pictures etc and just getting each other very excited for when we have sex. He said it was going to be amazing and he was going to do all these wonderful things and make me feel great… but he just hasn’t. I get excited in that way when I am with him, but anything sexual is just not living up to what we had discussed or said was going to happen. I try my best to live up to what I said I would do, but he just doesn’t. It feels disappointing. He has started to touch me, then stops when I am getting close, which makes me feel an overwhelming sense of upset and frustration. I suddenly feel very depressed when this happens because it’s like a buildup and then it just stops. I don’t think he does this on purpose but I feel terrible asking him to continue. It just makes me angry. He gets his and I don’t get mine. Sex just always feels like a disappointment, especially since we’ve been discussing it for so long about what’s going to happen and our fantasies. Afterwards, I just feel a bit used and like it didn’t live up to my expectations. I really do like him a lot and we have good communication but I just don’t know what to do about this. Any advice? submitted by /u/19ang [link] [comments] 

I’m (25F) seeing this new guy (28M) and I am very attracted to him. I love spending time with him and he does excite me sexually. We’ve been sexting, sharing fantasies, pictures etc and just getting each other very excited for when we have sex. He said it was going to be amazing and he was going to do all these wonderful things and make me feel great… but he just hasn’t. I get excited in that way when I am with him, but anything sexual is just not living up to what we had discussed or said was going to happen. I try my best to live up to what I said I would do, but he just doesn’t. It feels disappointing. He has started to touch me, then stops when I am getting close, which makes me feel an overwhelming sense of upset and frustration. I suddenly feel very depressed when this happens because it’s like a buildup and then it just stops. I don’t think he does this on purpose but I feel terrible asking him to continue. It just makes me angry. He gets his and I don’t get mine. Sex just always feels like a disappointment, especially since we’ve been discussing it for so long about what’s going to happen and our fantasies. Afterwards, I just feel a bit used and like it didn’t live up to my expectations. I really do like him a lot and we have good communication but I just don’t know what to do about this. Any advice?

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