My partner (M28) and I (F26) have vastly different libidos and it’s starting to get to me a bit. I’m very open with my sexuality and my… habits… so he knows how high of a libido I have. But whenever I try to initiate sex, he always says he’s not in the mood so I try my best to get out of the mood but it’s hard for me… Especially since he’s a very touchy person and I’m very sensitive to touch. He loves playing with my breasts even though I’ve told him a thousand times what it does to me and it doesn’t do the same for him. It makes me feel like I’m a bad person for wanting sex with him when he’s not in the mood. We’ve tried using other methods (toys and such) but he didn’t seem very into it (he was acting like he was doing a chore) so it kinda ruined the mood for me so that didn’t end up working…
We are living long distance right now so that doesn’t help this, but it’s gotten to the point where it’s only once a month we engage in sexual activities together, if that. Don’t even suggest that he could be cheating, I don’t get those vibes from him at all. We’re in almost constant contact with each other and video call most nights…
I guess I’m just looking for advice to help us through this because I really love him and I don’t want sex to be the end of our relationship, but I’m also tired of feeling like I’m a bad person for wanting to have sex with my partner and I’m tired of taking matters into my “own hands” because it’s just not as satisfying. After all, when we do have sex, it’s fantastic, I love it…
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r/sex My partner (M28) and I (F26) have vastly different libidos and it’s starting to get to me a bit. I’m very open with my sexuality and my… habits… so he knows how high of a libido I have. But whenever I try to initiate sex, he always says he’s not in the mood so I try my best to get out of the mood but it’s hard for me… Especially since he’s a very touchy person and I’m very sensitive to touch. He loves playing with my breasts even though I’ve told him a thousand times what it does to me and it doesn’t do the same for him. It makes me feel like I’m a bad person for wanting sex with him when he’s not in the mood. We’ve tried using other methods (toys and such) but he didn’t seem very into it (he was acting like he was doing a chore) so it kinda ruined the mood for me so that didn’t end up working… We are living long distance right now so that doesn’t help this, but it’s gotten to the point where it’s only once a month we engage in sexual activities together, if that. Don’t even suggest that he could be cheating, I don’t get those vibes from him at all. We’re in almost constant contact with each other and video call most nights… I guess I’m just looking for advice to help us through this because I really love him and I don’t want sex to be the end of our relationship, but I’m also tired of feeling like I’m a bad person for wanting to have sex with my partner and I’m tired of taking matters into my “own hands” because it’s just not as satisfying. After all, when we do have sex, it’s fantastic, I love it… submitted by /u/spacey_pan [link] [comments]
My partner (M28) and I (F26) have vastly different libidos and it’s starting to get to me a bit. I’m very open with my sexuality and my… habits… so he knows how high of a libido I have. But whenever I try to initiate sex, he always says he’s not in the mood so I try my best to get out of the mood but it’s hard for me… Especially since he’s a very touchy person and I’m very sensitive to touch. He loves playing with my breasts even though I’ve told him a thousand times what it does to me and it doesn’t do the same for him. It makes me feel like I’m a bad person for wanting sex with him when he’s not in the mood. We’ve tried using other methods (toys and such) but he didn’t seem very into it (he was acting like he was doing a chore) so it kinda ruined the mood for me so that didn’t end up working…
We are living long distance right now so that doesn’t help this, but it’s gotten to the point where it’s only once a month we engage in sexual activities together, if that. Don’t even suggest that he could be cheating, I don’t get those vibes from him at all. We’re in almost constant contact with each other and video call most nights…
I guess I’m just looking for advice to help us through this because I really love him and I don’t want sex to be the end of our relationship, but I’m also tired of feeling like I’m a bad person for wanting to have sex with my partner and I’m tired of taking matters into my “own hands” because it’s just not as satisfying. After all, when we do have sex, it’s fantastic, I love it…
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