I (22m) have been with my gf (21f) for just under 3 years now and the sex has always been decent sometimes with longer dry spells sometimes not. Always very vanilla as well. One of the main things that stands out to me is oral. She does not give oral to me and very rarely allows me to give it to her. This is a shame because oral has always been one of my absolute favorite parts of sex. For some reason talking about sex in our relationship feels wrong and awkward. In the past me and other partners have had no issue discussing very explicitly between the two of us but for us it is different and I am not sure why. It frustrates me because I want to bring up topics of things I want but I can’t make myself because it feels so awkward. She has never shamed me or reacted negatively to things I have mentioned would be fun to try except for oral. Most of the time she acknowledges what I say but it never really goes beyond that. Oral is the exception. It has been brought up and every time the response is “not today” or “another time” then I bring it up outside of the middle of sex and it is met with a brick wall. If she is completely against this aspect of sex then that is something I can respect and work around no problem; but if it is something that can be worked through then I would like to get through it too. I just find it very hard to open up to her about my preferences and I cannot understand why and I want to know how I can communicate to her about this part of our relationship when I find it so hard.
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r/sex I (22m) have been with my gf (21f) for just under 3 years now and the sex has always been decent sometimes with longer dry spells sometimes not. Always very vanilla as well. One of the main things that stands out to me is oral. She does not give oral to me and very rarely allows me to give it to her. This is a shame because oral has always been one of my absolute favorite parts of sex. For some reason talking about sex in our relationship feels wrong and awkward. In the past me and other partners have had no issue discussing very explicitly between the two of us but for us it is different and I am not sure why. It frustrates me because I want to bring up topics of things I want but I can’t make myself because it feels so awkward. She has never shamed me or reacted negatively to things I have mentioned would be fun to try except for oral. Most of the time she acknowledges what I say but it never really goes beyond that. Oral is the exception. It has been brought up and every time the response is “not today” or “another time” then I bring it up outside of the middle of sex and it is met with a brick wall. If she is completely against this aspect of sex then that is something I can respect and work around no problem; but if it is something that can be worked through then I would like to get through it too. I just find it very hard to open up to her about my preferences and I cannot understand why and I want to know how I can communicate to her about this part of our relationship when I find it so hard. submitted by /u/AdPristine7424 [link] [comments]
I (22m) have been with my gf (21f) for just under 3 years now and the sex has always been decent sometimes with longer dry spells sometimes not. Always very vanilla as well. One of the main things that stands out to me is oral. She does not give oral to me and very rarely allows me to give it to her. This is a shame because oral has always been one of my absolute favorite parts of sex. For some reason talking about sex in our relationship feels wrong and awkward. In the past me and other partners have had no issue discussing very explicitly between the two of us but for us it is different and I am not sure why. It frustrates me because I want to bring up topics of things I want but I can’t make myself because it feels so awkward. She has never shamed me or reacted negatively to things I have mentioned would be fun to try except for oral. Most of the time she acknowledges what I say but it never really goes beyond that. Oral is the exception. It has been brought up and every time the response is “not today” or “another time” then I bring it up outside of the middle of sex and it is met with a brick wall. If she is completely against this aspect of sex then that is something I can respect and work around no problem; but if it is something that can be worked through then I would like to get through it too. I just find it very hard to open up to her about my preferences and I cannot understand why and I want to know how I can communicate to her about this part of our relationship when I find it so hard.
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