Please help me (F44) give good oral to my new girlfriend (F39)! I had only ever been with men until 3 months ago. /u/Imurhuckleberry1978 Sex

I was married to a man for 20 years but we recently divorced. In the process, I have determined that I have strong feelings for another girl. This is all very new to me. I had only ever been with men up until 3 months ago. My girlfriend is amazing and knows exactly what to do. She has only ever been with girls so she has a little more experience. I don’t want this to become about bashing my ex because I think he is a great guy but I never experienced an organism until I was with this girl. My ex just never fully took the time to learn what felt good to me and I never made the effort to tell him so I am equally to blame. So, I am just now learning what feels good to me. Because of this, I know I have no idea what I am doing in the bedroom with another woman. I don’t know how to please her and I very much want to make the effort to learn.

A more specific issue I have is she is a bigger girl and I have found I have a harder time reaching her clit with my tongue. Or maybe it’s just me not knowing what I am doing? Is this a thing – that it’s harder to reach the clit on certain women, especially if they are bigger. I do not want this to be about her weight because I love her for who she is but I am genuinely curious. And I would like some advice. I can use my fingers just fine but I want to become better with my tongue.

I do feel silly asking for advice. I’m a girl so I feel like I should know these things but I truly don’t. So, any general advice and any advice on how to better reach her clit is so appreciated.

I was married to a man for 20 years but we recently divorced. In the process, I have determined that I have strong feelings for another girl. This is all very new to me. I had only ever been with men up until 3 months ago. My girlfriend is amazing and knows exactly what to do. She has only ever been with girls so she has a little more experience. I don’t want this to become about bashing my ex because I think he is a great guy but I never experienced an organism until I was with this girl. My ex just never fully took the time to learn what felt good to me and I never made the effort to tell him so I am equally to blame. So, I am just now learning what feels good to me. Because of this, I know I have no idea what I am doing in the bedroom with another woman. I don’t know how to please her and I very much want to make the effort to learn.

A more specific issue I have is she is a bigger girl and I have found I have a harder time reaching her clit with my tongue. Or maybe it’s just me not knowing what I am doing? Is this a thing – that it’s harder to reach the clit on certain women, especially if they are bigger. I do not want this to be about her weight because I love her for who she is but I am genuinely curious. And I would like some advice. I can use my fingers just fine but I want to become better with my tongue.

I do feel silly asking for advice. I’m a girl so I feel like I should know these things but I truly don’t. So, any general advice and any advice on how to better reach her clit is so appreciated.