Hi yall – I’m a woman who has been casually seeing a guy for 4 months. The sex is really good!
Most recently we did something very stupid. We had unprotected sex while I was on my period. Another thing to note is that I had a cold sore near my mouth at this time. I said, “we probably shouldn’t have oral sex” he said “Herpes doesn’t spread that way”, so on we went. At some points during the sex I suppose he was not enjoying it and said “you can do way better than that”. At the time all of it felt fine, including him finishing inside of me, ,with my consent.
In hindsight, after taking plan B and booking an STI check because I feel I might have transferred my own mouth herpes to my genitals through oral sex, I don’t feel that good about it. Not in the sense of consent, but rather I feel that I wasn’t listened to when I was trying to be catious, and also I felt patronized for his comment about my performance when I was riding him.
In general this man is not particularly emotional or sensetive. We never talk about how we feel, and I suspect he would dismiss my concerns if I tried to discuss them. Are my feelings valid? Should I suck it up and talk to him anyway?
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r/sex Hi yall – I’m a woman who has been casually seeing a guy for 4 months. The sex is really good! Most recently we did something very stupid. We had unprotected sex while I was on my period. Another thing to note is that I had a cold sore near my mouth at this time. I said, “we probably shouldn’t have oral sex” he said “Herpes doesn’t spread that way”, so on we went. At some points during the sex I suppose he was not enjoying it and said “you can do way better than that”. At the time all of it felt fine, including him finishing inside of me, ,with my consent. In hindsight, after taking plan B and booking an STI check because I feel I might have transferred my own mouth herpes to my genitals through oral sex, I don’t feel that good about it. Not in the sense of consent, but rather I feel that I wasn’t listened to when I was trying to be catious, and also I felt patronized for his comment about my performance when I was riding him. In general this man is not particularly emotional or sensetive. We never talk about how we feel, and I suspect he would dismiss my concerns if I tried to discuss them. Are my feelings valid? Should I suck it up and talk to him anyway? submitted by /u/chocodillo [link] [comments]
Hi yall – I’m a woman who has been casually seeing a guy for 4 months. The sex is really good!
Most recently we did something very stupid. We had unprotected sex while I was on my period. Another thing to note is that I had a cold sore near my mouth at this time. I said, “we probably shouldn’t have oral sex” he said “Herpes doesn’t spread that way”, so on we went. At some points during the sex I suppose he was not enjoying it and said “you can do way better than that”. At the time all of it felt fine, including him finishing inside of me, ,with my consent.
In hindsight, after taking plan B and booking an STI check because I feel I might have transferred my own mouth herpes to my genitals through oral sex, I don’t feel that good about it. Not in the sense of consent, but rather I feel that I wasn’t listened to when I was trying to be catious, and also I felt patronized for his comment about my performance when I was riding him.
In general this man is not particularly emotional or sensetive. We never talk about how we feel, and I suspect he would dismiss my concerns if I tried to discuss them. Are my feelings valid? Should I suck it up and talk to him anyway?
submitted by /u/chocodillo
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