How do I stop making sex feel like a chore for gf? /u/kupanbob Sex

I can admit that I have probably fucked in some situations when it comes to being sexual. She deals with depression, and I’m willing to fight for it, so spare me if the leave her comments. :)) Feeling unloved, touched, sexually desired has been things that obliviously has been happening cause of her feeling horrible. Instead of me controlling my thoughts I would sometimes get hurt angry, sad. This would lead to her losing sexual interest and thinking that if she doesn’t have sex with me il be in a bad mood etc. I don’t want it to be like this, and Im honestly just looking for advice about how I can let go of my sexual desire with her for now and still be in peace. I don’t want her to feel ashamed of being depressed and not being able to be sexual as much as I want. For context we usually had sex every day/ every second day. Went to once or twice a week, and it’s getting worse. And I know that for a fact it’s cause of both her depression, but also her breaks not letting her get sexually attracted to me cause of my patterns of rejection/not feeling loved, so it probably does or makes it feel like she has to meet my needs, which technically yes is valid, but also not. It’s super hard to get out of this box, and I feel like I’m lost and have no idea how to manage this in a healthy way! Would love some advice. :))

I can admit that I have probably fucked in some situations when it comes to being sexual. She deals with depression, and I’m willing to fight for it, so spare me if the leave her comments. :)) Feeling unloved, touched, sexually desired has been things that obliviously has been happening cause of her feeling horrible. Instead of me controlling my thoughts I would sometimes get hurt angry, sad. This would lead to her losing sexual interest and thinking that if she doesn’t have sex with me il be in a bad mood etc. I don’t want it to be like this, and Im honestly just looking for advice about how I can let go of my sexual desire with her for now and still be in peace. I don’t want her to feel ashamed of being depressed and not being able to be sexual as much as I want. For context we usually had sex every day/ every second day. Went to once or twice a week, and it’s getting worse. And I know that for a fact it’s cause of both her depression, but also her breaks not letting her get sexually attracted to me cause of my patterns of rejection/not feeling loved, so it probably does or makes it feel like she has to meet my needs, which technically yes is valid, but also not. It’s super hard to get out of this box, and I feel like I’m lost and have no idea how to manage this in a healthy way! Would love some advice. :))