Struggling with initiating sex with my partner and need advice. /u/FreckledJustice Sex

My 30M and I 24F have been dating for 9 months now. I’m completely in love with him and him to me.

Before him, I was in a relationship for 2 years. I was so highly aroused by my ex. I craved sex from him all day, everyday. I legit wanted him constantly. For context, we only saw each other once a month or so, so, maybe that’s why my sex drive was so high for him. He also usually always led the sexual interactions and was in control, which I really enjoyed. I’m an over thinker naturally, so it’s nice when my partner takes the reigns in the bedroom and shows he wants me.

With my new partner, he told me his previous gf of 7 years ALWAYS initiated. Apparently he never had to initiate and she always started the sexual interactions.

So I feel like we are kinda in this grid lock where we’ve had several conversations about it and he still won’t initiate for me how I’ve explained I want him to. Which is just like kissing me, touching me, telling me he wants me etc, like you would if you WANTED to fuck someone??? It just always seems like he expects me to be able to read his mind and do sexual things to him but he doesn’t ever say anything or make me feel wanted.

I am almost starting to dread sex with him or get it over with. It’s like I’m starting to resent sex. I love sex and feel like I’m a very passionate and sensual person but he’s not like…. Bringing out my feminine energy?

Anyone who’s had experience with trying to spark the sexual drive with your partner, how did you do it? Are there ways to work past this? Any advice/experience would be appreciated!!

TLDR; my bf won’t initiate sex and it feels like we’re in a stand still and rarely have sex anymore (9 months into the relationship which doesn’t seem normal). How have you worked through this and what are my best options to over come this?

My 30M and I 24F have been dating for 9 months now. I’m completely in love with him and him to me.

Before him, I was in a relationship for 2 years. I was so highly aroused by my ex. I craved sex from him all day, everyday. I legit wanted him constantly. For context, we only saw each other once a month or so, so, maybe that’s why my sex drive was so high for him. He also usually always led the sexual interactions and was in control, which I really enjoyed. I’m an over thinker naturally, so it’s nice when my partner takes the reigns in the bedroom and shows he wants me.

With my new partner, he told me his previous gf of 7 years ALWAYS initiated. Apparently he never had to initiate and she always started the sexual interactions.

So I feel like we are kinda in this grid lock where we’ve had several conversations about it and he still won’t initiate for me how I’ve explained I want him to. Which is just like kissing me, touching me, telling me he wants me etc, like you would if you WANTED to fuck someone??? It just always seems like he expects me to be able to read his mind and do sexual things to him but he doesn’t ever say anything or make me feel wanted.

I am almost starting to dread sex with him or get it over with. It’s like I’m starting to resent sex. I love sex and feel like I’m a very passionate and sensual person but he’s not like…. Bringing out my feminine energy?

Anyone who’s had experience with trying to spark the sexual drive with your partner, how did you do it? Are there ways to work past this? Any advice/experience would be appreciated!!

TLDR; my bf won’t initiate sex and it feels like we’re in a stand still and rarely have sex anymore (9 months into the relationship which doesn’t seem normal). How have you worked through this and what are my best options to over come this?