A little background:
I (35F) am sadly a virgin. Between purity culture as a teen and then crippling anxiety/bipolar I never dated for years. I also spent many years putting myself last after being a nanny to my nephews and caregiver to elderly and dying family. Last New Year’s I decided that I was done living my sexual life out through books, erotica, and occasional porn- plus my nephews are both in school and I no longer had anyone who needs caring for. I decided I was going to do a little online dating and and put myself first. I even started to feel beautiful and embrace my curves.
I’ve had two less than stellar experiences with guys who said they were interested in or we actually dated. There are a couple of guys that I talk to as friends and we flirt, but one I will call Q who I have a good amount in common with and we have hung out a couple of times. He isn’t looking for a relationship just yet, but wants to find a FWB. The other night we hung out and things got going, and a couple of firsts for me happened. Q knows all of this about me and has hinted that he would be willing to be my first if I wanted that. A VERY strong part of me wants to say hell yeah, but then my anxiety creeps up. Does it say something about me(not that anyone would know, I wouldn’t be telling people) to lose my virginity to a FWB, what if after it I start to feel clingy or whatever.
So, I guess I am here because I just want opinions or something. I don’t have anyone in my life I can talk about this stuff with.
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r/sex A little background: I (35F) am sadly a virgin. Between purity culture as a teen and then crippling anxiety/bipolar I never dated for years. I also spent many years putting myself last after being a nanny to my nephews and caregiver to elderly and dying family. Last New Year’s I decided that I was done living my sexual life out through books, erotica, and occasional porn- plus my nephews are both in school and I no longer had anyone who needs caring for. I decided I was going to do a little online dating and and put myself first. I even started to feel beautiful and embrace my curves. I’ve had two less than stellar experiences with guys who said they were interested in or we actually dated. There are a couple of guys that I talk to as friends and we flirt, but one I will call Q who I have a good amount in common with and we have hung out a couple of times. He isn’t looking for a relationship just yet, but wants to find a FWB. The other night we hung out and things got going, and a couple of firsts for me happened. Q knows all of this about me and has hinted that he would be willing to be my first if I wanted that. A VERY strong part of me wants to say hell yeah, but then my anxiety creeps up. Does it say something about me(not that anyone would know, I wouldn’t be telling people) to lose my virginity to a FWB, what if after it I start to feel clingy or whatever. So, I guess I am here because I just want opinions or something. I don’t have anyone in my life I can talk about this stuff with. submitted by /u/Lil_Overthinker6569 [link] [comments]
A little background:
I (35F) am sadly a virgin. Between purity culture as a teen and then crippling anxiety/bipolar I never dated for years. I also spent many years putting myself last after being a nanny to my nephews and caregiver to elderly and dying family. Last New Year’s I decided that I was done living my sexual life out through books, erotica, and occasional porn- plus my nephews are both in school and I no longer had anyone who needs caring for. I decided I was going to do a little online dating and and put myself first. I even started to feel beautiful and embrace my curves.
I’ve had two less than stellar experiences with guys who said they were interested in or we actually dated. There are a couple of guys that I talk to as friends and we flirt, but one I will call Q who I have a good amount in common with and we have hung out a couple of times. He isn’t looking for a relationship just yet, but wants to find a FWB. The other night we hung out and things got going, and a couple of firsts for me happened. Q knows all of this about me and has hinted that he would be willing to be my first if I wanted that. A VERY strong part of me wants to say hell yeah, but then my anxiety creeps up. Does it say something about me(not that anyone would know, I wouldn’t be telling people) to lose my virginity to a FWB, what if after it I start to feel clingy or whatever.
So, I guess I am here because I just want opinions or something. I don’t have anyone in my life I can talk about this stuff with.
submitted by /u/Lil_Overthinker6569
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