(No idea if I’m posting in the right place.)
For context: I’m 30, engaged, low SE/mid SI (0/13 pts) which means I get turned off by regular things (ex. stress) and getting turned on is difficult. I’ve had low libido my entire life, thought I was asexual at one point, suddenly gained sexual interest in my mid-20s (but only for masturbating), and went back to near-asexuality when I started dating.
The difficulty is in that, according to the book, I’m not supposed to see my sexuality as a problem. My sexuality is “as is” and who I’ve been all along. But the map I’ve held on to for so long is more exciting and ideal than the terrain I’m experiencing. I sought mountains, but discovered flatlands. Emily goes on to say that “[joy] is how you feel about your journey toward your truest erotic self”. Except in my case, that means there is no erotic self. If my sexuality is “as is”, then there’s nothing to fix. But there’s nothing to celebrate either. I could lose my fiancé and I’m terrified.
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r/sex (No idea if I’m posting in the right place.) For context: I’m 30, engaged, low SE/mid SI (0/13 pts) which means I get turned off by regular things (ex. stress) and getting turned on is difficult. I’ve had low libido my entire life, thought I was asexual at one point, suddenly gained sexual interest in my mid-20s (but only for masturbating), and went back to near-asexuality when I started dating. The difficulty is in that, according to the book, I’m not supposed to see my sexuality as a problem. My sexuality is “as is” and who I’ve been all along. But the map I’ve held on to for so long is more exciting and ideal than the terrain I’m experiencing. I sought mountains, but discovered flatlands. Emily goes on to say that “[joy] is how you feel about your journey toward your truest erotic self”. Except in my case, that means there is no erotic self. If my sexuality is “as is”, then there’s nothing to fix. But there’s nothing to celebrate either. I could lose my fiancé and I’m terrified. submitted by /u/neothrowaway9 [link] [comments]
(No idea if I’m posting in the right place.)
For context: I’m 30, engaged, low SE/mid SI (0/13 pts) which means I get turned off by regular things (ex. stress) and getting turned on is difficult. I’ve had low libido my entire life, thought I was asexual at one point, suddenly gained sexual interest in my mid-20s (but only for masturbating), and went back to near-asexuality when I started dating.
The difficulty is in that, according to the book, I’m not supposed to see my sexuality as a problem. My sexuality is “as is” and who I’ve been all along. But the map I’ve held on to for so long is more exciting and ideal than the terrain I’m experiencing. I sought mountains, but discovered flatlands. Emily goes on to say that “[joy] is how you feel about your journey toward your truest erotic self”. Except in my case, that means there is no erotic self. If my sexuality is “as is”, then there’s nothing to fix. But there’s nothing to celebrate either. I could lose my fiancé and I’m terrified.
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