How to have sex without putting on a performance? /u/ThrowRA0012345 Sex

Hi all. I’m wondering if anyone has any advice regarding my situation.

I (25F) have been with my partner (26M) for six years now. We have a healthy sex life, most people I think would consider it somewhat lacking but we have had numerous discussions about how frequently we would like sex, and both of us are happy with our situation right now. I would be happy to raise my sex drive, but I’m content with it right now.

Whenever we do have sex, it’s so wonderful. He’s so selfless in bed and always makes sure I feel good. My issue is that I can’t get out of my head and be in the moment. Any time we have sex I feel like I’m performing. It’s not that I feel like I have to perform for him, just that I don’t really know how to comfortably have sex without almost “acting.”

I definitely have some slight issues with my self confidence, but nothing that I feel like most other people don’t experience. But I feel so shy, like I have to put on a performance and be a different person to have sex. The only sex we have is the type where we’re kinda serious. I have trouble looking him in the eyes during sex, sometimes I struggle to open my eyes at all.

I hear people talk about having non-serious sex with their significant other, where they laugh or have conversations while fucking. And that just seems so foreign to me, we’ve never had that kind of sex. I’d like to try but I don’t know how.

I hope this makes sense. I’m open to any advice

Hi all. I’m wondering if anyone has any advice regarding my situation.

I (25F) have been with my partner (26M) for six years now. We have a healthy sex life, most people I think would consider it somewhat lacking but we have had numerous discussions about how frequently we would like sex, and both of us are happy with our situation right now. I would be happy to raise my sex drive, but I’m content with it right now.

Whenever we do have sex, it’s so wonderful. He’s so selfless in bed and always makes sure I feel good. My issue is that I can’t get out of my head and be in the moment. Any time we have sex I feel like I’m performing. It’s not that I feel like I have to perform for him, just that I don’t really know how to comfortably have sex without almost “acting.”

I definitely have some slight issues with my self confidence, but nothing that I feel like most other people don’t experience. But I feel so shy, like I have to put on a performance and be a different person to have sex. The only sex we have is the type where we’re kinda serious. I have trouble looking him in the eyes during sex, sometimes I struggle to open my eyes at all.

I hear people talk about having non-serious sex with their significant other, where they laugh or have conversations while fucking. And that just seems so foreign to me, we’ve never had that kind of sex. I’d like to try but I don’t know how.

I hope this makes sense. I’m open to any advice