I’m currently messaging someone [29M] who I’ve met briefly a few times, with the intention of most likely sleeping together the next time we meet. He’s sent me a shirtless photo and, well, I’ve been left feeling nervous as hell for him to see me naked because he is quite clearly much more in shape than me. He’s never seen me naked or even partially undressed before.
I’m thrown by this feeling of insecurity because I’m normally very body confident – I regularly work out and I’m a healthy weight, I’ve just never been with such a ripped guy (as in 8-pack). I also weigh more and have less muscle mass than I did a year ago and I’m left feeling like I want to look more like that version of me to “match” him. Fucked up, I know. I guess I hold the fear he’s going to experience disappointment or even repulsion when he sees my body.
I still want to sleep with him, so does anyone have any tips for how I can build a more secure mentality going into this (other than the obvious suggestions of lingerie etc.) to help me get out of my own head. I’ve never had this specific insecurity with any partner before, casual or otherwise.
Thank you!
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r/sex I’m currently messaging someone [29M] who I’ve met briefly a few times, with the intention of most likely sleeping together the next time we meet. He’s sent me a shirtless photo and, well, I’ve been left feeling nervous as hell for him to see me naked because he is quite clearly much more in shape than me. He’s never seen me naked or even partially undressed before. I’m thrown by this feeling of insecurity because I’m normally very body confident – I regularly work out and I’m a healthy weight, I’ve just never been with such a ripped guy (as in 8-pack). I also weigh more and have less muscle mass than I did a year ago and I’m left feeling like I want to look more like that version of me to “match” him. Fucked up, I know. I guess I hold the fear he’s going to experience disappointment or even repulsion when he sees my body. I still want to sleep with him, so does anyone have any tips for how I can build a more secure mentality going into this (other than the obvious suggestions of lingerie etc.) to help me get out of my own head. I’ve never had this specific insecurity with any partner before, casual or otherwise. Thank you! submitted by /u/teacup_12 [link] [comments]
I’m currently messaging someone [29M] who I’ve met briefly a few times, with the intention of most likely sleeping together the next time we meet. He’s sent me a shirtless photo and, well, I’ve been left feeling nervous as hell for him to see me naked because he is quite clearly much more in shape than me. He’s never seen me naked or even partially undressed before.
I’m thrown by this feeling of insecurity because I’m normally very body confident – I regularly work out and I’m a healthy weight, I’ve just never been with such a ripped guy (as in 8-pack). I also weigh more and have less muscle mass than I did a year ago and I’m left feeling like I want to look more like that version of me to “match” him. Fucked up, I know. I guess I hold the fear he’s going to experience disappointment or even repulsion when he sees my body.
I still want to sleep with him, so does anyone have any tips for how I can build a more secure mentality going into this (other than the obvious suggestions of lingerie etc.) to help me get out of my own head. I’ve never had this specific insecurity with any partner before, casual or otherwise.
Thank you!
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