Full disclosure, due to meds he can go soft during sex. This is frustrating for him. He also tells me he gets caught up in his head when sex is about to happen, which impacts his ability to stay hard. One time I offered to orally finish him off. Afterwards, he didn’t try to make me cum. I chalked it up to him feeling down about it, and I was just happy to make him feel good.
This most recent time he’s gone soft, we held each other afterwards. Out of genuine curiosity, I asked him if it was something I did, or if there was something I could do to help—he said no to both. He proceeded to tell me his stress is likely impacting his ability to stay hard. I let him vent. He’s definitely going through a stressful time.
He then asked me to finish him off orally—I agree because I enjoy it, and I know I can make him finish. He does. After a slew of compliments from him, he doesn’t show interest to help me finish. He just seems exhausted. Although I’ve been 100% understanding and patient with him, I couldn’t hide my disappointment. I think he could tell I was in my head due to the looks he gave me, but he didn’t pry. I didn’t say anything because I wasn’t, and still am not, sure if I’m valid for feeling this way. This may be TMI—but the sex was decent up until he went soft. It was a bit rough, so I’m feeling pretty sore. It’s like an raw reminder to how I’m feeling emotionally if that makes sense. But I just feel selfish.
However at the same time, I feel that it’s literally not me being upset because I didn’t finish, it’s not about the orgasm for me. I’m upset because he didn’t seem to care that I didn’t finish. Besides these two experiences, I enjoy being with him, so this isn’t a dealbreaker yet. I’m curious if I’m valid for feeling upset, and if so, how can I address it with him? Should I even?
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r/sex Full disclosure, due to meds he can go soft during sex. This is frustrating for him. He also tells me he gets caught up in his head when sex is about to happen, which impacts his ability to stay hard. One time I offered to orally finish him off. Afterwards, he didn’t try to make me cum. I chalked it up to him feeling down about it, and I was just happy to make him feel good. This most recent time he’s gone soft, we held each other afterwards. Out of genuine curiosity, I asked him if it was something I did, or if there was something I could do to help—he said no to both. He proceeded to tell me his stress is likely impacting his ability to stay hard. I let him vent. He’s definitely going through a stressful time. He then asked me to finish him off orally—I agree because I enjoy it, and I know I can make him finish. He does. After a slew of compliments from him, he doesn’t show interest to help me finish. He just seems exhausted. Although I’ve been 100% understanding and patient with him, I couldn’t hide my disappointment. I think he could tell I was in my head due to the looks he gave me, but he didn’t pry. I didn’t say anything because I wasn’t, and still am not, sure if I’m valid for feeling this way. This may be TMI—but the sex was decent up until he went soft. It was a bit rough, so I’m feeling pretty sore. It’s like an raw reminder to how I’m feeling emotionally if that makes sense. But I just feel selfish. However at the same time, I feel that it’s literally not me being upset because I didn’t finish, it’s not about the orgasm for me. I’m upset because he didn’t seem to care that I didn’t finish. Besides these two experiences, I enjoy being with him, so this isn’t a dealbreaker yet. I’m curious if I’m valid for feeling upset, and if so, how can I address it with him? Should I even? submitted by /u/mochaboo20 [link] [comments]
Full disclosure, due to meds he can go soft during sex. This is frustrating for him. He also tells me he gets caught up in his head when sex is about to happen, which impacts his ability to stay hard. One time I offered to orally finish him off. Afterwards, he didn’t try to make me cum. I chalked it up to him feeling down about it, and I was just happy to make him feel good.
This most recent time he’s gone soft, we held each other afterwards. Out of genuine curiosity, I asked him if it was something I did, or if there was something I could do to help—he said no to both. He proceeded to tell me his stress is likely impacting his ability to stay hard. I let him vent. He’s definitely going through a stressful time.
He then asked me to finish him off orally—I agree because I enjoy it, and I know I can make him finish. He does. After a slew of compliments from him, he doesn’t show interest to help me finish. He just seems exhausted. Although I’ve been 100% understanding and patient with him, I couldn’t hide my disappointment. I think he could tell I was in my head due to the looks he gave me, but he didn’t pry. I didn’t say anything because I wasn’t, and still am not, sure if I’m valid for feeling this way. This may be TMI—but the sex was decent up until he went soft. It was a bit rough, so I’m feeling pretty sore. It’s like an raw reminder to how I’m feeling emotionally if that makes sense. But I just feel selfish.
However at the same time, I feel that it’s literally not me being upset because I didn’t finish, it’s not about the orgasm for me. I’m upset because he didn’t seem to care that I didn’t finish. Besides these two experiences, I enjoy being with him, so this isn’t a dealbreaker yet. I’m curious if I’m valid for feeling upset, and if so, how can I address it with him? Should I even?
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