A One-Night-Stand made me bleed and I don’t know how to feel about it /u/TotallyNotATeenager Sex

I [25F] met up with a guy [36M] at a bar, totally not expecting anything to happen after. He was a nice enough guy, we had a good time, and by 1 or 2 am, I was hopped up on enough whiskey sours and nicotine that I was down to trek a couple of blocks to his place. We gave each other head, but I had a bit of trouble “arriving” because of my anti-depressants. I decided to fast-track the experience, so I didn’t make anyone feel bad, so we went straight to sex.

In hindsight, this was a bad decision because I was not nearly wet enough for sex to be enjoyable. Even if I was initially, I was so worried thinking about his pleasure that I couldn’t focus on mine for the long term.

Halfway through having sex, I started bleeding. Profusely. Enough to cover his crotch area and provide some lubrication that wasn’t really there before. He told me “you’re bleeding by the way.” I was shocked. I have an IUD and haven’t had a period in at least a year. It never occurred to me that it was from the sex itself. I freaked out and said, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry!” He said, “That’s never stopped me before.” I was really far into subspace at this point so I just went with it.

I’m sure he was referring to people having their period and not being bothered by the blood in that situation, but unfortunately, my bleeding was caused by tearing and physical trauma. Even two days later, it hurts to go to the bathroom and I definitely can’t have sex for a while. I’m usually a fan of rough sex, but I’ve never had such long-lasting pain from sex. I wish he would have stopped and checked in with me so I didn’t have to deal with this on my own days later. I don’t really have anyone else to talk to about this, so I’m venting on Reddit, I guess.

I [25F] met up with a guy [36M] at a bar, totally not expecting anything to happen after. He was a nice enough guy, we had a good time, and by 1 or 2 am, I was hopped up on enough whiskey sours and nicotine that I was down to trek a couple of blocks to his place. We gave each other head, but I had a bit of trouble “arriving” because of my anti-depressants. I decided to fast-track the experience, so I didn’t make anyone feel bad, so we went straight to sex.

In hindsight, this was a bad decision because I was not nearly wet enough for sex to be enjoyable. Even if I was initially, I was so worried thinking about his pleasure that I couldn’t focus on mine for the long term.

Halfway through having sex, I started bleeding. Profusely. Enough to cover his crotch area and provide some lubrication that wasn’t really there before. He told me “you’re bleeding by the way.” I was shocked. I have an IUD and haven’t had a period in at least a year. It never occurred to me that it was from the sex itself. I freaked out and said, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry!” He said, “That’s never stopped me before.” I was really far into subspace at this point so I just went with it.

I’m sure he was referring to people having their period and not being bothered by the blood in that situation, but unfortunately, my bleeding was caused by tearing and physical trauma. Even two days later, it hurts to go to the bathroom and I definitely can’t have sex for a while. I’m usually a fan of rough sex, but I’ve never had such long-lasting pain from sex. I wish he would have stopped and checked in with me so I didn’t have to deal with this on my own days later. I don’t really have anyone else to talk to about this, so I’m venting on Reddit, I guess.