I do not know how to eat pussy. /u/CardiBStan Sex

Hey everybody, never thought I’d be posting here lmao.

Anyway, I just recently turned 22(male btw). Up until the last couple weeks, I was a complete virgin. Never had sex, got head, gave head, made out for more then a few seconds, all that good stuff. I never even had a girlfriend last more then a couple weeks. Anyway, to make it short, I got a girlfriend and man it has been incredible. I’ve never felt like anyone besides my family actually cared about me this much, honestly I can’t describe enough how happy I am after years of self hatred, thinking I was just unloveable, and accepting I’d be alone forever. So look, things have been going amazing. Like really amazing. Too good to be true and I’ve been paranoid every day that it’s exactly that and will fall apart any day. The sexual stuff has been really good for the most part. Little awkward, as she also is very sexually inexperienced, but it’s all been going smoothly. However we have hit our first big problem in our relationship and in our sex life this week: my lack of oral skill.

Now look, I realize I’m in the complete wrong for this, but I told her I was not a virgin and that I was sexually experienced. I have been made fun of for that all my life. Honestly even my own family has made little jabs at me for it. Every time I go online, especially on reddit, and they’re talking about douchebags, they call them virgins as an insult, which has destroyed my self esteem in the past. Seeing people constantly use that as an insult and me being mocked for it before had made me legit terrified to tell anybody else I was one. Plus this girl also isn’t very experienced with sex, so I wanted her to feel comfortable and not like she was with someone who didn’t know what to do. It was unfair to her for me to not admit it and I was wrong.

Anyway, so things were going good until just recently. I tried eating her out and, to cut to the chase, I had zero clue wtf to do. I went online and it said to lick the clit. I did that and it did nothing for her. I then put a ton of pressure in the dead center and went deep and that actually seemed to really do it for her, but that quickly went away as I didn’t know what to do with my tongue after a solid 10 seconds and my jaw began to hurt pretty bad. Tbh I’m still in shock that licking the clit didn’t work as that’s what I had heard you should always do for years. Either way, it did nothing and it was pretty awkward. She became a bit distant right after I was unable to do it for her. After this I finally admitted to her that I was inexperienced. She seems cool with it but I feel like she’s not. I feel like I’m about to get the break up text any second now. This morning, she went home to take a shower and get clothes, but I honestly feel like that was a lie and she just wants to get away. She also gave me head this morning but something about her seemed off and uninterested(or maybe it was just me?). I maybe overthinking, let me stop. The point is that, it eats me up that I couldn’t satisfy her and the thought that another guy may come along and satisfy her in ways I can’t is a big one after this. I desperately need help on what to do here. I plan to eat her out again soon to make up for this, but I need some sort of game plan for next time.

Thank you all in advance. Sorry if I sound a bit dramatic or am letting too many negative thoughts get to me. This is just all so fresh and I’ve been pretty upset.

Hey everybody, never thought I’d be posting here lmao.

Anyway, I just recently turned 22(male btw). Up until the last couple weeks, I was a complete virgin. Never had sex, got head, gave head, made out for more then a few seconds, all that good stuff. I never even had a girlfriend last more then a couple weeks. Anyway, to make it short, I got a girlfriend and man it has been incredible. I’ve never felt like anyone besides my family actually cared about me this much, honestly I can’t describe enough how happy I am after years of self hatred, thinking I was just unloveable, and accepting I’d be alone forever. So look, things have been going amazing. Like really amazing. Too good to be true and I’ve been paranoid every day that it’s exactly that and will fall apart any day. The sexual stuff has been really good for the most part. Little awkward, as she also is very sexually inexperienced, but it’s all been going smoothly. However we have hit our first big problem in our relationship and in our sex life this week: my lack of oral skill.

Now look, I realize I’m in the complete wrong for this, but I told her I was not a virgin and that I was sexually experienced. I have been made fun of for that all my life. Honestly even my own family has made little jabs at me for it. Every time I go online, especially on reddit, and they’re talking about douchebags, they call them virgins as an insult, which has destroyed my self esteem in the past. Seeing people constantly use that as an insult and me being mocked for it before had made me legit terrified to tell anybody else I was one. Plus this girl also isn’t very experienced with sex, so I wanted her to feel comfortable and not like she was with someone who didn’t know what to do. It was unfair to her for me to not admit it and I was wrong.

Anyway, so things were going good until just recently. I tried eating her out and, to cut to the chase, I had zero clue wtf to do. I went online and it said to lick the clit. I did that and it did nothing for her. I then put a ton of pressure in the dead center and went deep and that actually seemed to really do it for her, but that quickly went away as I didn’t know what to do with my tongue after a solid 10 seconds and my jaw began to hurt pretty bad. Tbh I’m still in shock that licking the clit didn’t work as that’s what I had heard you should always do for years. Either way, it did nothing and it was pretty awkward. She became a bit distant right after I was unable to do it for her. After this I finally admitted to her that I was inexperienced. She seems cool with it but I feel like she’s not. I feel like I’m about to get the break up text any second now. This morning, she went home to take a shower and get clothes, but I honestly feel like that was a lie and she just wants to get away. She also gave me head this morning but something about her seemed off and uninterested(or maybe it was just me?). I maybe overthinking, let me stop. The point is that, it eats me up that I couldn’t satisfy her and the thought that another guy may come along and satisfy her in ways I can’t is a big one after this. I desperately need help on what to do here. I plan to eat her out again soon to make up for this, but I need some sort of game plan for next time.

Thank you all in advance. Sorry if I sound a bit dramatic or am letting too many negative thoughts get to me. This is just all so fresh and I’ve been pretty upset.