Husband isn’t as sexual as me /u/femmepower1 Sex

Husband and I have been together 13 years. Both in our mid 30s. We have a good sex life, have sex at least 3-4 times a week and the sex is really good. It’s about equal as to who initiates it.

However I feel like I’m more sexual and more flirty than him and make more effort. He’ll give my bum a little tap as he walks past me but that’s about it. He has blanket consent to penetrate me in my sleep but he’s done it like 2-3 times ever. I’ve told him he can take me whenever he wants. I’d love for him to be more dominant. I want him to not be able to keep his hands off me. I have talked to him about this and he said he’ll make more effort to but eventually just slips back to how it was.

I genuinely don’t think it’s due to a lack of attraction because as I said we do have a good sex life. I think he’s just a bit more vanilla than me.

Not sure if I’m really asking for advice or just having a bit of a vent tbh

Husband and I have been together 13 years. Both in our mid 30s. We have a good sex life, have sex at least 3-4 times a week and the sex is really good. It’s about equal as to who initiates it.

However I feel like I’m more sexual and more flirty than him and make more effort. He’ll give my bum a little tap as he walks past me but that’s about it. He has blanket consent to penetrate me in my sleep but he’s done it like 2-3 times ever. I’ve told him he can take me whenever he wants. I’d love for him to be more dominant. I want him to not be able to keep his hands off me. I have talked to him about this and he said he’ll make more effort to but eventually just slips back to how it was.

I genuinely don’t think it’s due to a lack of attraction because as I said we do have a good sex life. I think he’s just a bit more vanilla than me.

Not sure if I’m really asking for advice or just having a bit of a vent tbh