Guy friend distant after having sex with me? /u/hhshdhdjjfhdhh Sex

Me: (25F), him: (26M). I’ve known him for almost six years, met him as we both work at the same place (still do). When we first met I actually had a crush on him but that’s passed now and he’s definitely just my friend lol.

Since about July 2022 our relationship progressed to sexting and sending lewd photos and telling each other what we want to do to each other. Sometimes I’d head over to his place to have a couple drinks and watch the hockey game, sometimes we’d make out and I’d go down on him or he’d finger me, sometimes we wouldn’t do anything and just chill with each other. We hooked up like three times.

Last month I went over there to hangout with him. We ended up having penetrative sex and then just hung out to watch the game. Days after he got maybe a lil quiet but I still heard from him everyday. Two weeks ago we were at a bar with some mutual friends and I went back to his, and we had tipsy sex against the wall before we even got completely into his place (basement suite).

Since then he’s been kind of distant and quiet, we went to a bar a few days ago and when I got there he got pretty quiet and didn’t really have a bunch to say to me until he had a couple drinks. I still hear from him everyday but he’s just kind of dry in his txting. I defs don’t think he developed feelings after we had sex because I know his history and he can definitely have casual sex without feelings lol.

I guess this is more of a rant than anything lol because it’s kinda annoying and I was afraid of this. He’s still my friend that I find very attractive and I was hoping we could keep having sex. I know the responses to thid already; “just talk to him!”. I want to without appearing clingy or as if I have real feelings for him. Has this happened with anyone else before? How did you navigate it? Thank yaaa.

Me: (25F), him: (26M). I’ve known him for almost six years, met him as we both work at the same place (still do). When we first met I actually had a crush on him but that’s passed now and he’s definitely just my friend lol.

Since about July 2022 our relationship progressed to sexting and sending lewd photos and telling each other what we want to do to each other. Sometimes I’d head over to his place to have a couple drinks and watch the hockey game, sometimes we’d make out and I’d go down on him or he’d finger me, sometimes we wouldn’t do anything and just chill with each other. We hooked up like three times.

Last month I went over there to hangout with him. We ended up having penetrative sex and then just hung out to watch the game. Days after he got maybe a lil quiet but I still heard from him everyday. Two weeks ago we were at a bar with some mutual friends and I went back to his, and we had tipsy sex against the wall before we even got completely into his place (basement suite).

Since then he’s been kind of distant and quiet, we went to a bar a few days ago and when I got there he got pretty quiet and didn’t really have a bunch to say to me until he had a couple drinks. I still hear from him everyday but he’s just kind of dry in his txting. I defs don’t think he developed feelings after we had sex because I know his history and he can definitely have casual sex without feelings lol.

I guess this is more of a rant than anything lol because it’s kinda annoying and I was afraid of this. He’s still my friend that I find very attractive and I was hoping we could keep having sex. I know the responses to thid already; “just talk to him!”. I want to without appearing clingy or as if I have real feelings for him. Has this happened with anyone else before? How did you navigate it? Thank yaaa.