Am I being too picky when it comes to sex or do I need more mental stimulation? /u/fatherlils Sex

my boyfriend (20m) and i (20f) have been dating for 8 months and i feel like i’m being picky about when or how much we have sex.

for the first couple months of our relationship, we would have sex multiple times a day. then i got comfortable and didn’t want to have it as much, because we can have sex whenever. this has been the case for all of my relationships, and i’ve never had a problem with it until now.

my boyfriend has a high sex drive and can get horny at the snap of a finger. once i’ve been dating someone for a while i need more stimulation to get horny, so this is where my problem comes into place.

for example – if we’re sitting around at the house all day, i’m not going to want to have sex. but if we went out to eat or on a date or did something fun, i would want to have sex. my love language is quality time so this makes sense but it makes me feel bad that i never want to have sex if we just hang out at the house.

he wakes up horny every morning and sleeps naked most of the time. i don’t want to sound like a bad girlfriend but this is a huge turn off of mine. he sweats a lot when he sleeps, so if we cuddled for most of the night, i already wake up feeling like i need to take a shower. but if i’m being woken up to him all sweaty and humping my leg, it really irritates me. especially if he hasn’t shaved in a while and his pubes are poking me.

i feel like seeing him naked all the time makes me not want to have sex as much either? i feel like a terrible person saying that, but it takes away the excitement of undressing him myself.

i also don’t like when he initiates it randomly. we’ll be doing something together and then he just starts groping me and guiding my hand to his pants.

i recently started nexplanon which has been messing with my hormones and i also have interstitial cystitis which is a bladder condition so it affects how i feel down there, but i honestly feel like my pickiness is the biggest culprit.

i can’t tell if it’s normal to feel this way and i just need more mental stimulation, or if i’m being too negative about sex. please strangers of the internet help a girl out 🙏🏼

my boyfriend (20m) and i (20f) have been dating for 8 months and i feel like i’m being picky about when or how much we have sex.

for the first couple months of our relationship, we would have sex multiple times a day. then i got comfortable and didn’t want to have it as much, because we can have sex whenever. this has been the case for all of my relationships, and i’ve never had a problem with it until now.

my boyfriend has a high sex drive and can get horny at the snap of a finger. once i’ve been dating someone for a while i need more stimulation to get horny, so this is where my problem comes into place.

for example – if we’re sitting around at the house all day, i’m not going to want to have sex. but if we went out to eat or on a date or did something fun, i would want to have sex. my love language is quality time so this makes sense but it makes me feel bad that i never want to have sex if we just hang out at the house.

he wakes up horny every morning and sleeps naked most of the time. i don’t want to sound like a bad girlfriend but this is a huge turn off of mine. he sweats a lot when he sleeps, so if we cuddled for most of the night, i already wake up feeling like i need to take a shower. but if i’m being woken up to him all sweaty and humping my leg, it really irritates me. especially if he hasn’t shaved in a while and his pubes are poking me.

i feel like seeing him naked all the time makes me not want to have sex as much either? i feel like a terrible person saying that, but it takes away the excitement of undressing him myself.

i also don’t like when he initiates it randomly. we’ll be doing something together and then he just starts groping me and guiding my hand to his pants.

i recently started nexplanon which has been messing with my hormones and i also have interstitial cystitis which is a bladder condition so it affects how i feel down there, but i honestly feel like my pickiness is the biggest culprit.

i can’t tell if it’s normal to feel this way and i just need more mental stimulation, or if i’m being too negative about sex. please strangers of the internet help a girl out 🙏🏼