Am I (24M) ignorant/oblivious, or do people have sex a lot more than I thought they did? /u/NomadOfNet Sex

To add some context, I’m 24 years old, I consider myself asexual, and have no experience whatsoever.

I’ve been reading up on sex, relationships and dating for the past two years, mainly because it seems like helpful information to know and also I’ve got a curious streak.

However, something that I’ve come to realise is that people in general are apparently having sex way more than I thought. I recently saw a post on the lowest average frequency of sex in the world, and this (seemingly official) report said that the Japanese have sex 45 times a year on average.

Now this may seem ignorant but isn’t that still a lot?

That’s basically once every week and a half, and if that’s considered to be the lowest average frequency of sex, then what about the rest of the world?

Before I really started reading up on all this, I genuinely didn’t think much about how often people had sex. I knew they must be doing it, obviously, and that since it was so hyped up then people must be putting lots of effort into getting it.

However I was sort of working under the assumption that for most single people you might have a hookup every couple of months, and then it might become a monthly or weekly kind of thing in relationships. Some health articles I’ve read since then specified that this was fairly typical for a lot of people, where you’d have months of inactivity followed by periods of lots of activity.

But then there’s people who complain about not getting laid in weeks, or brag about getting laid weekly, and I’m really struggling to figure out what the hell the ‘normal’ experience really is. I’m fairly certain that it’s a lot more often than I thought it was.

There are lots of reports and studies done on this subject, but I feel like asking people for their perspective on this.

Is regular sex a pretty certain bet for most people or is it more like periods of no sex followed by periods of lots of sex in a relatively unpredictable cycle?

Again, I feel pretty ignorant about this. I still think I’m pretty clueless about what the ‘normal’ and ‘expected’ sexual experience is, if such a thing exists.

To add some context, I’m 24 years old, I consider myself asexual, and have no experience whatsoever.

I’ve been reading up on sex, relationships and dating for the past two years, mainly because it seems like helpful information to know and also I’ve got a curious streak.

However, something that I’ve come to realise is that people in general are apparently having sex way more than I thought. I recently saw a post on the lowest average frequency of sex in the world, and this (seemingly official) report said that the Japanese have sex 45 times a year on average.

Now this may seem ignorant but isn’t that still a lot?

That’s basically once every week and a half, and if that’s considered to be the lowest average frequency of sex, then what about the rest of the world?

Before I really started reading up on all this, I genuinely didn’t think much about how often people had sex. I knew they must be doing it, obviously, and that since it was so hyped up then people must be putting lots of effort into getting it.

However I was sort of working under the assumption that for most single people you might have a hookup every couple of months, and then it might become a monthly or weekly kind of thing in relationships. Some health articles I’ve read since then specified that this was fairly typical for a lot of people, where you’d have months of inactivity followed by periods of lots of activity.

But then there’s people who complain about not getting laid in weeks, or brag about getting laid weekly, and I’m really struggling to figure out what the hell the ‘normal’ experience really is. I’m fairly certain that it’s a lot more often than I thought it was.

There are lots of reports and studies done on this subject, but I feel like asking people for their perspective on this.

Is regular sex a pretty certain bet for most people or is it more like periods of no sex followed by periods of lots of sex in a relatively unpredictable cycle?

Again, I feel pretty ignorant about this. I still think I’m pretty clueless about what the ‘normal’ and ‘expected’ sexual experience is, if such a thing exists.