Long one. Sorry in advance.
My partner (34F) and I (34M) have been having sex for about 15 years, and while we semi regularly use other positions, manual, and oral as part of a “session”, inevitably she orgasms the same way (we’ve had orgasm parity since we were teens) – missionary with me on top, propped up on my left forearm, hand on the back of her head/neck, and right hand rubbing her clit directly while we have sex.
While I’m thrilled that she orgasms regularly, and we’ve buillt a sex life that can be satisfying for both us, I worry sometimes that we may have trapped ourselves a bit. I enjoy novelty, so we regularly incorporate kink and toys, but sometimes I worry about what might happen if ever we suddenly could not use the old standby to finish. What that might mean for our relationship, or our intimacy. To the point that I even used one of the clone-a-willy kits so that we’d have a backup, but when i put it in a harness to try it, she quickly became exasperated and wanted to switch back.
I guess I have two questions: 1) is missionary + partner directed clit stim common, as i dont see a lot about it in this sub, and 2) has anyone else ever “trapped” themselves in a good sexual routine, and opened themselves up again (i know people overcome frequently overcome terrible adversities, and they are inspirational, but i more mean people who manage to “diversify” when there is no short term reason to)
Thank you so much for any help.
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r/sex Long one. Sorry in advance. My partner (34F) and I (34M) have been having sex for about 15 years, and while we semi regularly use other positions, manual, and oral as part of a “session”, inevitably she orgasms the same way (we’ve had orgasm parity since we were teens) – missionary with me on top, propped up on my left forearm, hand on the back of her head/neck, and right hand rubbing her clit directly while we have sex. While I’m thrilled that she orgasms regularly, and we’ve buillt a sex life that can be satisfying for both us, I worry sometimes that we may have trapped ourselves a bit. I enjoy novelty, so we regularly incorporate kink and toys, but sometimes I worry about what might happen if ever we suddenly could not use the old standby to finish. What that might mean for our relationship, or our intimacy. To the point that I even used one of the clone-a-willy kits so that we’d have a backup, but when i put it in a harness to try it, she quickly became exasperated and wanted to switch back. I guess I have two questions: 1) is missionary + partner directed clit stim common, as i dont see a lot about it in this sub, and 2) has anyone else ever “trapped” themselves in a good sexual routine, and opened themselves up again (i know people overcome frequently overcome terrible adversities, and they are inspirational, but i more mean people who manage to “diversify” when there is no short term reason to) Thank you so much for any help. submitted by /u/throwpillowprofile [link] [comments]
Long one. Sorry in advance.
My partner (34F) and I (34M) have been having sex for about 15 years, and while we semi regularly use other positions, manual, and oral as part of a “session”, inevitably she orgasms the same way (we’ve had orgasm parity since we were teens) – missionary with me on top, propped up on my left forearm, hand on the back of her head/neck, and right hand rubbing her clit directly while we have sex.
While I’m thrilled that she orgasms regularly, and we’ve buillt a sex life that can be satisfying for both us, I worry sometimes that we may have trapped ourselves a bit. I enjoy novelty, so we regularly incorporate kink and toys, but sometimes I worry about what might happen if ever we suddenly could not use the old standby to finish. What that might mean for our relationship, or our intimacy. To the point that I even used one of the clone-a-willy kits so that we’d have a backup, but when i put it in a harness to try it, she quickly became exasperated and wanted to switch back.
I guess I have two questions: 1) is missionary + partner directed clit stim common, as i dont see a lot about it in this sub, and 2) has anyone else ever “trapped” themselves in a good sexual routine, and opened themselves up again (i know people overcome frequently overcome terrible adversities, and they are inspirational, but i more mean people who manage to “diversify” when there is no short term reason to)
Thank you so much for any help.
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