I think his main kink might make us break up /u/Kickky_Crunchie Sex

I (22f) and lets call him Lucas (22m) have been dating for the past 8 months and I had thought I had found my perfect guy, he was respectful of my slowness to have sex for the first time, he and I get along well, we have almost the same interest and we both just fit really well. Even if we are polar opposites.

I am quiet and somewhat shy and tend to keep to myself and I’m on the heavier said of body types, while his is very out going, talkative and is really into body building. So when people see us they don’t really think we would match well. But lately I’ve been thinking otherwise.

So me and Lucas met through our college classes a few semesters ago and then started dating last semester and all was great. Though it was hard trying to get used to his cosplaying and going to conventions with him while he was in cosplay and in character but I got used to it and find it somewhat cute. But the recent convention in October we went too sparked curiosity in me. He always dressed up and brings his Bane outfit to every conventions and more times then not he wears it for more then just one day of the 3 day conventions when he brought 2 other ones he was dying to wear but only got to wear two out of the three he bought.

I mean I knew he liked Bane from the Batman series and he thought of him as an interesting and cool character, though when he was getting ready in the morning I could hear him talking to himself in the bathroom saying stuff like its a turn on that soon he’ll be a jacked himbo like Bane one day and it confused me for a bit but I brushed it off thinking he was in character.

Until the middle of December, while we were having sex I was on top(it took me a few months to get used to being a top with him as I am naturally a hard bottom but I did it for him as I want him satisfied more then me during sec) and he started to say stuff during sex like “I want you to be my big muscle Mommy” or “I want my Mommy to grow tall, strong and curvier.” and I admit that some of it was a turn off, but I didn’t mind the thought of getting chubbier as I do have a small weight gain fetish as when I gain weight it goes to my chest, belly and thighs and I think those parts are the hottest parts of my body.

But this made me start to wonder what his real kinks were. So I did a bit of digging and started to ask more kinky and personal questions and every time I asked he kept giving me neutral answers. So I dropped it for a bit, till he started to ask me to start coming to the gym with him to do some weight lifting with him, even though he knows going to the gym brings up bad memories and experiences with me.

So I went back to digging around the end of December, as he mentioned he does have dirty alt accounts. I searched throughout Insta as thats his primary app he uses and found a Bane fetish account that had photos of him dressed in his Bane cosplay and doing edits of him turning into Bane. Along with other post on how he wants to be like Bane one day and to one day have a girlfriend that will be a Bane like girl for him. And this immediately sent shock and fear into me.

And I have kept this with me ever since, and I don’t know what to do or how to ask him about this. I’m not trying to kink shame but, I’ve already gone over my limits and boundaries for him kink wise, I’ve become a Dominate top for him (even if I’m still a bit uncomfortable doing it), I let him call me Mommy (still a bit awkward for me), I humiliate him in private and public for him and its all stuff that he wants and the only thing he’s done for me sex wise (not even kink, I just like being a sub and I haven’t been able to be one since we started dating I’m 24/7 Mommy Dom even though he claims he’s a switch) is using a condom even if he always protests he doesn’t like wearing them. Yes, I’m on the pill and I just want condoms as I’ve had pregnancy scares and STD scares on the times I didn’t make a guy wear condoms.

So I just don’t know what to do, I feel like he’s starting to try and integrate this fetish into our sex life and I am not down for it. As he tried to wear his Bane outfit last night to try and turn me on but I avoided it by making him submissive and such and made he change to go get me something as he loves it when I demand for things and make him my slave (another kink I’m not comfortable with but I do it as it makes him happy and that makes me happy)

I just don’t know what to do, its not like I’m trying to kink shame him, its just I don’t know what to do if one day he finally says “This is my kink, take it or leave it.” And I don’t want to lose him over this. I’ve gotten around to wanting to try and say “love” to him as its always been a sensitive word for me and he said it to me about 6 months into us dating and I don’t want to lose him or have to make him feel ashamed of this kink and such. Please any input will help, I just need to know how to deal with it or work around it.

I (22f) and lets call him Lucas (22m) have been dating for the past 8 months and I had thought I had found my perfect guy, he was respectful of my slowness to have sex for the first time, he and I get along well, we have almost the same interest and we both just fit really well. Even if we are polar opposites.

I am quiet and somewhat shy and tend to keep to myself and I’m on the heavier said of body types, while his is very out going, talkative and is really into body building. So when people see us they don’t really think we would match well. But lately I’ve been thinking otherwise.

So me and Lucas met through our college classes a few semesters ago and then started dating last semester and all was great. Though it was hard trying to get used to his cosplaying and going to conventions with him while he was in cosplay and in character but I got used to it and find it somewhat cute. But the recent convention in October we went too sparked curiosity in me. He always dressed up and brings his Bane outfit to every conventions and more times then not he wears it for more then just one day of the 3 day conventions when he brought 2 other ones he was dying to wear but only got to wear two out of the three he bought.

I mean I knew he liked Bane from the Batman series and he thought of him as an interesting and cool character, though when he was getting ready in the morning I could hear him talking to himself in the bathroom saying stuff like its a turn on that soon he’ll be a jacked himbo like Bane one day and it confused me for a bit but I brushed it off thinking he was in character.

Until the middle of December, while we were having sex I was on top(it took me a few months to get used to being a top with him as I am naturally a hard bottom but I did it for him as I want him satisfied more then me during sec) and he started to say stuff during sex like “I want you to be my big muscle Mommy” or “I want my Mommy to grow tall, strong and curvier.” and I admit that some of it was a turn off, but I didn’t mind the thought of getting chubbier as I do have a small weight gain fetish as when I gain weight it goes to my chest, belly and thighs and I think those parts are the hottest parts of my body.

But this made me start to wonder what his real kinks were. So I did a bit of digging and started to ask more kinky and personal questions and every time I asked he kept giving me neutral answers. So I dropped it for a bit, till he started to ask me to start coming to the gym with him to do some weight lifting with him, even though he knows going to the gym brings up bad memories and experiences with me.

So I went back to digging around the end of December, as he mentioned he does have dirty alt accounts. I searched throughout Insta as thats his primary app he uses and found a Bane fetish account that had photos of him dressed in his Bane cosplay and doing edits of him turning into Bane. Along with other post on how he wants to be like Bane one day and to one day have a girlfriend that will be a Bane like girl for him. And this immediately sent shock and fear into me.

And I have kept this with me ever since, and I don’t know what to do or how to ask him about this. I’m not trying to kink shame but, I’ve already gone over my limits and boundaries for him kink wise, I’ve become a Dominate top for him (even if I’m still a bit uncomfortable doing it), I let him call me Mommy (still a bit awkward for me), I humiliate him in private and public for him and its all stuff that he wants and the only thing he’s done for me sex wise (not even kink, I just like being a sub and I haven’t been able to be one since we started dating I’m 24/7 Mommy Dom even though he claims he’s a switch) is using a condom even if he always protests he doesn’t like wearing them. Yes, I’m on the pill and I just want condoms as I’ve had pregnancy scares and STD scares on the times I didn’t make a guy wear condoms.

So I just don’t know what to do, I feel like he’s starting to try and integrate this fetish into our sex life and I am not down for it. As he tried to wear his Bane outfit last night to try and turn me on but I avoided it by making him submissive and such and made he change to go get me something as he loves it when I demand for things and make him my slave (another kink I’m not comfortable with but I do it as it makes him happy and that makes me happy)

I just don’t know what to do, its not like I’m trying to kink shame him, its just I don’t know what to do if one day he finally says “This is my kink, take it or leave it.” And I don’t want to lose him over this. I’ve gotten around to wanting to try and say “love” to him as its always been a sensitive word for me and he said it to me about 6 months into us dating and I don’t want to lose him or have to make him feel ashamed of this kink and such. Please any input will help, I just need to know how to deal with it or work around it.