I (32F) have always been a frequent masturbator. And have never associated it with being “in the mood”. I’ve used it a lot for stress relief and going to sleep. but now i’ve noticed that I’m masturbating and just thinking of non-sexual upsetting parts of my life. conflict with family, abuse from former partners etc. So i just stop. When I am trying to get off Its always been a lot of cnc stuff featuring a person who isn’t me. Trying imagine myself having sex is kind of a turn off. It just feels difficult and I really don’t like thinking about my body or someone looking at me? recently I’ve only been able to get there thinking about an ex basically coercing and treating a woman a woman poorly. and surreptitiously filming her (which he did to me). it’s like the formula is evil undesirable person plus a woman who is “perfect” and better than me.
I’ve always been more into sex than my partners and more “kinky”. i’m a relationship that feels more healthy and normal. We had a really active sex and it’s at the end of the honeymoon stage and I guess it becoming more normal to not be so sex focused but it’s bothering me. I feel like I want a lot of sex but it’s not really connected to pleasure. it’s some other thing. wondering if anyone feels similar or has advice.
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r/sex I (32F) have always been a frequent masturbator. And have never associated it with being “in the mood”. I’ve used it a lot for stress relief and going to sleep. but now i’ve noticed that I’m masturbating and just thinking of non-sexual upsetting parts of my life. conflict with family, abuse from former partners etc. So i just stop. When I am trying to get off Its always been a lot of cnc stuff featuring a person who isn’t me. Trying imagine myself having sex is kind of a turn off. It just feels difficult and I really don’t like thinking about my body or someone looking at me? recently I’ve only been able to get there thinking about an ex basically coercing and treating a woman a woman poorly. and surreptitiously filming her (which he did to me). it’s like the formula is evil undesirable person plus a woman who is “perfect” and better than me. I’ve always been more into sex than my partners and more “kinky”. i’m a relationship that feels more healthy and normal. We had a really active sex and it’s at the end of the honeymoon stage and I guess it becoming more normal to not be so sex focused but it’s bothering me. I feel like I want a lot of sex but it’s not really connected to pleasure. it’s some other thing. wondering if anyone feels similar or has advice. submitted by /u/PseudoPsychotropical [link] [comments]
I (32F) have always been a frequent masturbator. And have never associated it with being “in the mood”. I’ve used it a lot for stress relief and going to sleep. but now i’ve noticed that I’m masturbating and just thinking of non-sexual upsetting parts of my life. conflict with family, abuse from former partners etc. So i just stop. When I am trying to get off Its always been a lot of cnc stuff featuring a person who isn’t me. Trying imagine myself having sex is kind of a turn off. It just feels difficult and I really don’t like thinking about my body or someone looking at me? recently I’ve only been able to get there thinking about an ex basically coercing and treating a woman a woman poorly. and surreptitiously filming her (which he did to me). it’s like the formula is evil undesirable person plus a woman who is “perfect” and better than me.
I’ve always been more into sex than my partners and more “kinky”. i’m a relationship that feels more healthy and normal. We had a really active sex and it’s at the end of the honeymoon stage and I guess it becoming more normal to not be so sex focused but it’s bothering me. I feel like I want a lot of sex but it’s not really connected to pleasure. it’s some other thing. wondering if anyone feels similar or has advice.
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