bf seems unenthusiastic about the fun suggestion I made /u/Ancient_Jackfruit508 Sex

Bf and I have had discussions about something specific where he would get teased for a while and then I’d plan a weekend around his enjoyment where he doesn’t have to worry about anything

It takes a lot of mental preparation for me to do things like this which he is well aware of.

I recently made the suggestion for him to be teased during the week before he sees me and his response was “we can if you want to”. Which showed me he doesn’t want to but will because I want to. He’s doing it because he cares about me.

Knowing that he’s not into it is a turn off for me so the build up and turn on for me isnt going to happen knowing that he’s only doing it for me.

I have also pointed out that my interest and excitement is reciprocal of his interest and excitement. If the other person doesn’t enjoy it then I also won’t.

I pointed out that he doesn’t seem into it and he’s directly said he’s only doing it for me.

Is this normal? For a guy to be less than enthusiastic and excited about for a weekend his girl is planning for HIS pleasure. I have not even considered my own.

As it is I already feel like he doesn’t enjoy spending time with me because the once a week I see him he spends the majority time gaming. He has been super tired lately too so hardly any sex either.and in the one woth a higher libido. The gaming all day when I’m over also means I can’t initiate.I brought this up and we were meant to talk further about it and he said he’s sorry I feel that way. No further discussions have been done even on the night we said we were going to discuss it further. I will not bring this up again because it’s the third time I’m saying I don’t feel like we spend enough time together and I will not run after him or beg attention.

But, what do you guys think around this?

Bf and I have had discussions about something specific where he would get teased for a while and then I’d plan a weekend around his enjoyment where he doesn’t have to worry about anything

It takes a lot of mental preparation for me to do things like this which he is well aware of.

I recently made the suggestion for him to be teased during the week before he sees me and his response was “we can if you want to”. Which showed me he doesn’t want to but will because I want to. He’s doing it because he cares about me.

Knowing that he’s not into it is a turn off for me so the build up and turn on for me isnt going to happen knowing that he’s only doing it for me.

I have also pointed out that my interest and excitement is reciprocal of his interest and excitement. If the other person doesn’t enjoy it then I also won’t.

I pointed out that he doesn’t seem into it and he’s directly said he’s only doing it for me.

Is this normal? For a guy to be less than enthusiastic and excited about for a weekend his girl is planning for HIS pleasure. I have not even considered my own.

As it is I already feel like he doesn’t enjoy spending time with me because the once a week I see him he spends the majority time gaming. He has been super tired lately too so hardly any sex either.and in the one woth a higher libido. The gaming all day when I’m over also means I can’t initiate.I brought this up and we were meant to talk further about it and he said he’s sorry I feel that way. No further discussions have been done even on the night we said we were going to discuss it further. I will not bring this up again because it’s the third time I’m saying I don’t feel like we spend enough time together and I will not run after him or beg attention.

But, what do you guys think around this?