Hi! So I am a sex favorable asexual, very sexual person and I desire a high frequency of sex, but I don’t necessarily get aroused during it. Sometimes I do, either for the whole time or moments in particular positions and circumstances, but it’s unpredictable/unreliable, and I often don’t and am just happy to arouse or get off my partner. It makes me feel very good and satisfied to give my partner an orgasm as well, love to do it. I do however get aroused from oral sex when I am on the receiving end pretty much every time as I can fantasize about my partner in the way I please and feel good that they are the one getting me off without distraction from external stimulation (ie if they were rubbing my thigh the whole time for ex I would not be able to get off because I could not concentrate). It is so much more deeply satisfying with bigger orgasms than my solo play as I am connecting with my partner and it just feels better haha. I still consider sex a large need and get a deep emotional connection from it and get great gratification from getting my partners off and from them getting me off as well.
How would you as an allosexual feel dating someone like me under these circumstances? I get insecure about my lack of arousal and worry it would make my partners insecure/me less desirable so just wondering honest thoughts. Thanks!
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r/sex Hi! So I am a sex favorable asexual, very sexual person and I desire a high frequency of sex, but I don’t necessarily get aroused during it. Sometimes I do, either for the whole time or moments in particular positions and circumstances, but it’s unpredictable/unreliable, and I often don’t and am just happy to arouse or get off my partner. It makes me feel very good and satisfied to give my partner an orgasm as well, love to do it. I do however get aroused from oral sex when I am on the receiving end pretty much every time as I can fantasize about my partner in the way I please and feel good that they are the one getting me off without distraction from external stimulation (ie if they were rubbing my thigh the whole time for ex I would not be able to get off because I could not concentrate). It is so much more deeply satisfying with bigger orgasms than my solo play as I am connecting with my partner and it just feels better haha. I still consider sex a large need and get a deep emotional connection from it and get great gratification from getting my partners off and from them getting me off as well. How would you as an allosexual feel dating someone like me under these circumstances? I get insecure about my lack of arousal and worry it would make my partners insecure/me less desirable so just wondering honest thoughts. Thanks! submitted by /u/Public-Waltz6232 [link] [comments]
Hi! So I am a sex favorable asexual, very sexual person and I desire a high frequency of sex, but I don’t necessarily get aroused during it. Sometimes I do, either for the whole time or moments in particular positions and circumstances, but it’s unpredictable/unreliable, and I often don’t and am just happy to arouse or get off my partner. It makes me feel very good and satisfied to give my partner an orgasm as well, love to do it. I do however get aroused from oral sex when I am on the receiving end pretty much every time as I can fantasize about my partner in the way I please and feel good that they are the one getting me off without distraction from external stimulation (ie if they were rubbing my thigh the whole time for ex I would not be able to get off because I could not concentrate). It is so much more deeply satisfying with bigger orgasms than my solo play as I am connecting with my partner and it just feels better haha. I still consider sex a large need and get a deep emotional connection from it and get great gratification from getting my partners off and from them getting me off as well.
How would you as an allosexual feel dating someone like me under these circumstances? I get insecure about my lack of arousal and worry it would make my partners insecure/me less desirable so just wondering honest thoughts. Thanks!
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