Some context, before my boyfriend I hadn’t finished at all with previous partners, and valued good sex as being good to have sex with. (Good sex was not synonymous with my pleasure or if I finished).
I’m working on changing that, and it has led to having orgasms during sex!! Unfortunately while I had previously been orgasming after he would go down on me, and occasionally by penetration, now I am having trouble finishing again and old habits are coming back. Me and my boyfriend talked about this, but it’s making sex feel more like a chore or problem we have to figure out, versus something fun we’re doing to connect with one another.
How do I change this narrative/feeling and have fun?
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r/sex Some context, before my boyfriend I hadn’t finished at all with previous partners, and valued good sex as being good to have sex with. (Good sex was not synonymous with my pleasure or if I finished). I’m working on changing that, and it has led to having orgasms during sex!! Unfortunately while I had previously been orgasming after he would go down on me, and occasionally by penetration, now I am having trouble finishing again and old habits are coming back. Me and my boyfriend talked about this, but it’s making sex feel more like a chore or problem we have to figure out, versus something fun we’re doing to connect with one another. How do I change this narrative/feeling and have fun? submitted by /u/raisinobran [link] [comments]
Some context, before my boyfriend I hadn’t finished at all with previous partners, and valued good sex as being good to have sex with. (Good sex was not synonymous with my pleasure or if I finished).
I’m working on changing that, and it has led to having orgasms during sex!! Unfortunately while I had previously been orgasming after he would go down on me, and occasionally by penetration, now I am having trouble finishing again and old habits are coming back. Me and my boyfriend talked about this, but it’s making sex feel more like a chore or problem we have to figure out, versus something fun we’re doing to connect with one another.
How do I change this narrative/feeling and have fun?
submitted by /u/raisinobran
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