Hey, so I (26M) have been dating this girl (27F) for 2+ months and sex has been generally great. I’ve never felt this desired in my life. However there were a few rare cases where her vagina would dry up immediately as she comes after I’ve fingered her + eaten her clit, and usually when that happens I would try to take out my fingers very slowly to avoid hurting her. However, last time it happened, she got very paranoid and started pulling away. This resulted in my fingers hurting her pussy very badly. She was visibly in pain. I felt very bad about it and I have been avoiding fingering her since then. Now, it’s been a few weeks and I really want to finger her again, because she screams and moans so much and tells me she’s addicted to me and it’s generally a great experience for both of us. I have plenty of lube, but I feel like that would just be patching up the root issue. Also I usually finger her after intercourse, because she prefers it that way, so if I then apply lube, it stings on her pussy even though it’s water-based. We spoke about it and our best guess is that it dries up because she feels cold. I was worried that maybe she isn’t horny enough, but she craves sex all the time, to the point I can’t keep up. Also I make her really wet. Her panties are literally soaking wet and she squirts small amounts of liquid often when we have sex. So the other day I tried fingering her under the bed sheets, but she was very paranoid and asked me to take out the finger (only used 1 for safety). We spoke about it again and decided I will give her some time without mentioning it at all so the trauma can get out of her head.
For clarity:
– This does not happen with intercourse. No matter how many times she comes or how long I’ve jack hammered her. she doesn’t dry up and pulling out doesn’t hurt her
– This happens during her orgasms from fingering or immediately after them
– I usually use 2 fingers and in the beginning there were no issues
– I’ve used a toy that was 2.5 fingers wide and most of the times it was okay, but it hurt her one of the times when pulling it out (not sure if she had dried up. She squeezed it out and it came out too suddenly I think)
So my questions are:
1) What can I do to comfort her and help her get over the trauma?
2) What potential causes could there be for her vagina to dry up immediately after coming from fingering?
3) Any other tips/insight regarding the entire situation? I just wanna make sure my girl gets the best treatment and keeps being addicted to me ^^ Thanks!
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r/sex Hey, so I (26M) have been dating this girl (27F) for 2+ months and sex has been generally great. I’ve never felt this desired in my life. However there were a few rare cases where her vagina would dry up immediately as she comes after I’ve fingered her + eaten her clit, and usually when that happens I would try to take out my fingers very slowly to avoid hurting her. However, last time it happened, she got very paranoid and started pulling away. This resulted in my fingers hurting her pussy very badly. She was visibly in pain. I felt very bad about it and I have been avoiding fingering her since then. Now, it’s been a few weeks and I really want to finger her again, because she screams and moans so much and tells me she’s addicted to me and it’s generally a great experience for both of us. I have plenty of lube, but I feel like that would just be patching up the root issue. Also I usually finger her after intercourse, because she prefers it that way, so if I then apply lube, it stings on her pussy even though it’s water-based. We spoke about it and our best guess is that it dries up because she feels cold. I was worried that maybe she isn’t horny enough, but she craves sex all the time, to the point I can’t keep up. Also I make her really wet. Her panties are literally soaking wet and she squirts small amounts of liquid often when we have sex. So the other day I tried fingering her under the bed sheets, but she was very paranoid and asked me to take out the finger (only used 1 for safety). We spoke about it again and decided I will give her some time without mentioning it at all so the trauma can get out of her head. For clarity: – This does not happen with intercourse. No matter how many times she comes or how long I’ve jack hammered her. she doesn’t dry up and pulling out doesn’t hurt her – This happens during her orgasms from fingering or immediately after them – I usually use 2 fingers and in the beginning there were no issues – I’ve used a toy that was 2.5 fingers wide and most of the times it was okay, but it hurt her one of the times when pulling it out (not sure if she had dried up. She squeezed it out and it came out too suddenly I think) So my questions are: 1) What can I do to comfort her and help her get over the trauma? 2) What potential causes could there be for her vagina to dry up immediately after coming from fingering? 3) Any other tips/insight regarding the entire situation? I just wanna make sure my girl gets the best treatment and keeps being addicted to me ^^ Thanks! submitted by /u/Shinrael [link] [comments]
Hey, so I (26M) have been dating this girl (27F) for 2+ months and sex has been generally great. I’ve never felt this desired in my life. However there were a few rare cases where her vagina would dry up immediately as she comes after I’ve fingered her + eaten her clit, and usually when that happens I would try to take out my fingers very slowly to avoid hurting her. However, last time it happened, she got very paranoid and started pulling away. This resulted in my fingers hurting her pussy very badly. She was visibly in pain. I felt very bad about it and I have been avoiding fingering her since then. Now, it’s been a few weeks and I really want to finger her again, because she screams and moans so much and tells me she’s addicted to me and it’s generally a great experience for both of us. I have plenty of lube, but I feel like that would just be patching up the root issue. Also I usually finger her after intercourse, because she prefers it that way, so if I then apply lube, it stings on her pussy even though it’s water-based. We spoke about it and our best guess is that it dries up because she feels cold. I was worried that maybe she isn’t horny enough, but she craves sex all the time, to the point I can’t keep up. Also I make her really wet. Her panties are literally soaking wet and she squirts small amounts of liquid often when we have sex. So the other day I tried fingering her under the bed sheets, but she was very paranoid and asked me to take out the finger (only used 1 for safety). We spoke about it again and decided I will give her some time without mentioning it at all so the trauma can get out of her head.
For clarity:
– This does not happen with intercourse. No matter how many times she comes or how long I’ve jack hammered her. she doesn’t dry up and pulling out doesn’t hurt her
– This happens during her orgasms from fingering or immediately after them
– I usually use 2 fingers and in the beginning there were no issues
– I’ve used a toy that was 2.5 fingers wide and most of the times it was okay, but it hurt her one of the times when pulling it out (not sure if she had dried up. She squeezed it out and it came out too suddenly I think)
So my questions are:
1) What can I do to comfort her and help her get over the trauma?
2) What potential causes could there be for her vagina to dry up immediately after coming from fingering?
3) Any other tips/insight regarding the entire situation? I just wanna make sure my girl gets the best treatment and keeps being addicted to me ^^ Thanks!
submitted by /u/Shinrael
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