Bf (26M) is incredibly impatient, and I am into teasing /u/Dangerous-Love4621 Sex

My boyfriend (26M) and I (28F) have been together for over five years. We started of our relationship in a long-distance relationship. Sex during our honey moon phase was pretty alright, being apart for most of the time helped keep things interesting as well.

We have moved in together two years ago now, and things are pretty slow to say the least. Not only has the frequency of sex has gone down quite a bit, but also I am finding myself to be less and less satisfied with the sex. Probably the biggest issue with it is that he is incredibly impatient. It is not like I expect a long foreplay or anything, but I am super into teasing and being teased and with my bf I can do neither. I would like him to take his time to turn me on and tease me to get me in the mood, be making out, playing with my tits, dirty talking to me, grinding on me etc.

In reality, what happens is that after some foreplay he immediately wants to go inside me. He cannot even take his time with the first thrusts, and wants to go with a quick pace immediately. I don’t orgasm most times because he will just go jackrabbit style unless I go on top. Even if I go on top, it takes a few attempts to get him not to take over the pace of sex. When I cum it is generally PIV, very rarely him licking me or fingering me. Which unfortunately don’t happen very often either for some reason.

Same thing also when I try to tease him. In the beginning of our relationship, I would try to tease him before giving him a blowjob but he was not at all into it, basically getting bored. Which makes me not be so into pleasuring him because I cannot have the part of it that I enjoy the most.

Let alone any teasing, there is no mystery in our sex life at all. He will literally be undressed the second we start getting into it. So I cannot undress him myself teasing him along the way.

It is not that he does not care for my pleasure, but he simply cannot overcome his impatience for the ultimate goal of orgasm. He also feels bad when I don’t orgasm. I feel like he is maybe completely clueless on how to do things right. I kind of wish he would just do some research (not really his thing). I tried directing him during sex, does not work so much, maybe I don’t know how to explain things. I also talked to him, but not sure if he understands the gravity of the situation and is quite a sensitive person so I am afraid of hurting his feelings.

I love my boyfriend but we both deserve a better sex life than what we currently have.

I would very much appreciate your advice and thoughts on what to do in this situation. Thank you for your help!

My boyfriend (26M) and I (28F) have been together for over five years. We started of our relationship in a long-distance relationship. Sex during our honey moon phase was pretty alright, being apart for most of the time helped keep things interesting as well.

We have moved in together two years ago now, and things are pretty slow to say the least. Not only has the frequency of sex has gone down quite a bit, but also I am finding myself to be less and less satisfied with the sex. Probably the biggest issue with it is that he is incredibly impatient. It is not like I expect a long foreplay or anything, but I am super into teasing and being teased and with my bf I can do neither. I would like him to take his time to turn me on and tease me to get me in the mood, be making out, playing with my tits, dirty talking to me, grinding on me etc.

In reality, what happens is that after some foreplay he immediately wants to go inside me. He cannot even take his time with the first thrusts, and wants to go with a quick pace immediately. I don’t orgasm most times because he will just go jackrabbit style unless I go on top. Even if I go on top, it takes a few attempts to get him not to take over the pace of sex. When I cum it is generally PIV, very rarely him licking me or fingering me. Which unfortunately don’t happen very often either for some reason.

Same thing also when I try to tease him. In the beginning of our relationship, I would try to tease him before giving him a blowjob but he was not at all into it, basically getting bored. Which makes me not be so into pleasuring him because I cannot have the part of it that I enjoy the most.

Let alone any teasing, there is no mystery in our sex life at all. He will literally be undressed the second we start getting into it. So I cannot undress him myself teasing him along the way.

It is not that he does not care for my pleasure, but he simply cannot overcome his impatience for the ultimate goal of orgasm. He also feels bad when I don’t orgasm. I feel like he is maybe completely clueless on how to do things right. I kind of wish he would just do some research (not really his thing). I tried directing him during sex, does not work so much, maybe I don’t know how to explain things. I also talked to him, but not sure if he understands the gravity of the situation and is quite a sensitive person so I am afraid of hurting his feelings.

I love my boyfriend but we both deserve a better sex life than what we currently have.

I would very much appreciate your advice and thoughts on what to do in this situation. Thank you for your help!