Do I (F34) have the right to be upset at my fwb(M29)?
Do I have the right to be upset at my fwb?
Me F34 and M29 have been fwb since November 2021, no romantic feelings and we have slept with other people. Best part of our relationship has always been how respected he made me feel. How safe and calm I am during sex with him. We have deal to pause the fwb if one of us is starting to date someone seriously.
Yesterday I went to his place, we had sex, took a shower and went to bed. I always spend the night. Right before we fall a sleep he tells me that we need to hit pause because he met someone. I have absolutely no problem with that, it makes me happy, I want him to be happy. But I feel like he should have told me before sex.. I feel so used and I feel so bad for the girl.. Like he wanted to be with me a last time without telling me. I feel like shit. We had a talk about it and that just made him sad and angry at himself.. He said “no matter how I do I fuck up”
So do I have the right to be upset? It would have been fine if he told me before. But now I feel used and that he made a decision for me.. The decision of sleeping together when he is starting to see someone seriously. And it breaks my heart that he fucked up the best part of our fwb, the respect.
And no I’m not in love with him.
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r/sex Do I (F34) have the right to be upset at my fwb(M29)? Do I have the right to be upset at my fwb? Me F34 and M29 have been fwb since November 2021, no romantic feelings and we have slept with other people. Best part of our relationship has always been how respected he made me feel. How safe and calm I am during sex with him. We have deal to pause the fwb if one of us is starting to date someone seriously. Yesterday I went to his place, we had sex, took a shower and went to bed. I always spend the night. Right before we fall a sleep he tells me that we need to hit pause because he met someone. I have absolutely no problem with that, it makes me happy, I want him to be happy. But I feel like he should have told me before sex.. I feel so used and I feel so bad for the girl.. Like he wanted to be with me a last time without telling me. I feel like shit. We had a talk about it and that just made him sad and angry at himself.. He said “no matter how I do I fuck up” So do I have the right to be upset? It would have been fine if he told me before. But now I feel used and that he made a decision for me.. The decision of sleeping together when he is starting to see someone seriously. And it breaks my heart that he fucked up the best part of our fwb, the respect. And no I’m not in love with him. submitted by /u/KaleidoscopeOdd3891 [link] [comments]
Do I (F34) have the right to be upset at my fwb(M29)?
Do I have the right to be upset at my fwb?
Me F34 and M29 have been fwb since November 2021, no romantic feelings and we have slept with other people. Best part of our relationship has always been how respected he made me feel. How safe and calm I am during sex with him. We have deal to pause the fwb if one of us is starting to date someone seriously.
Yesterday I went to his place, we had sex, took a shower and went to bed. I always spend the night. Right before we fall a sleep he tells me that we need to hit pause because he met someone. I have absolutely no problem with that, it makes me happy, I want him to be happy. But I feel like he should have told me before sex.. I feel so used and I feel so bad for the girl.. Like he wanted to be with me a last time without telling me. I feel like shit. We had a talk about it and that just made him sad and angry at himself.. He said “no matter how I do I fuck up”
So do I have the right to be upset? It would have been fine if he told me before. But now I feel used and that he made a decision for me.. The decision of sleeping together when he is starting to see someone seriously. And it breaks my heart that he fucked up the best part of our fwb, the respect.
And no I’m not in love with him.
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