Me (31f) and my bf(30) are together for 1,5y. Sex was a problem from a start and it was a lot of work to find the balance for what we both enjoy. My libido was always stable, but I was suppressing it a lot because my bf didn’t want to have sex many times when I initiated or asked. Recently I feel it started to bother me because I started having dreams where I have sex with strangers, sometimes women and threesomes, I even experienced 2 night orgasms during these last 2 months. It has only have happened when I was single, but here I am in a relationship and my sexual needs are not met. We, of course talked about it and his main response is that he works a lot and usually is just tired. When we started dating he was working same job but his libido was much higher, but he was agressive and dominant and it wasn’t something I enjoyed for the whole intercourse, that’s why he had to learn being soft and submissive sometimes. Since then he started losing his interest in sex. I believe he doesn’t like me being dominant, but he says it’s not true when I ask him about it. Is there a chance he can enjoy me dominating or he doesn’t want to be a bit more flexible? I enjoy being both, dominant and submissive. Or is it sexual incompatibility that cannot be changed?
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r/sex Me (31f) and my bf(30) are together for 1,5y. Sex was a problem from a start and it was a lot of work to find the balance for what we both enjoy. My libido was always stable, but I was suppressing it a lot because my bf didn’t want to have sex many times when I initiated or asked. Recently I feel it started to bother me because I started having dreams where I have sex with strangers, sometimes women and threesomes, I even experienced 2 night orgasms during these last 2 months. It has only have happened when I was single, but here I am in a relationship and my sexual needs are not met. We, of course talked about it and his main response is that he works a lot and usually is just tired. When we started dating he was working same job but his libido was much higher, but he was agressive and dominant and it wasn’t something I enjoyed for the whole intercourse, that’s why he had to learn being soft and submissive sometimes. Since then he started losing his interest in sex. I believe he doesn’t like me being dominant, but he says it’s not true when I ask him about it. Is there a chance he can enjoy me dominating or he doesn’t want to be a bit more flexible? I enjoy being both, dominant and submissive. Or is it sexual incompatibility that cannot be changed? submitted by /u/menacrystal [link] [comments]
Me (31f) and my bf(30) are together for 1,5y. Sex was a problem from a start and it was a lot of work to find the balance for what we both enjoy. My libido was always stable, but I was suppressing it a lot because my bf didn’t want to have sex many times when I initiated or asked. Recently I feel it started to bother me because I started having dreams where I have sex with strangers, sometimes women and threesomes, I even experienced 2 night orgasms during these last 2 months. It has only have happened when I was single, but here I am in a relationship and my sexual needs are not met. We, of course talked about it and his main response is that he works a lot and usually is just tired. When we started dating he was working same job but his libido was much higher, but he was agressive and dominant and it wasn’t something I enjoyed for the whole intercourse, that’s why he had to learn being soft and submissive sometimes. Since then he started losing his interest in sex. I believe he doesn’t like me being dominant, but he says it’s not true when I ask him about it. Is there a chance he can enjoy me dominating or he doesn’t want to be a bit more flexible? I enjoy being both, dominant and submissive. Or is it sexual incompatibility that cannot be changed?
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