Not getting hard enough to penetrate, should I (M22) worry? /u/Anonymus_Adder Sex

So I finally found a girl who I lost my virginity to (and vice versa) and am really in love with her. However although I get aroused and erect by her, I have a hard time getting my penis hard enough to penetrate her. We have had sex four times now and I struggled each time with my penis not being hard enough to stay in her vagina although I did manage to be somewhat successful with doing it doggy style.

I haven’t really had the problem whilst receiving oral, although that being said, I don’t know if my penis is 100% hard during that and for a second round we tried last time, I didn’t manage to cum but I guess that’s okay with doing it within 2 hours time. I have also tried to put it on the fact that I’m above average (using XXL condoms) and thus might have a hard time getting into her vagina or that it is because I used to masturbate quite a lot and did a lot of edging, but part of me feels like I’m overthinking.

I guess, or to some extent even hope, that this is the thing namely that it is psychological and will go away over time, on the other hand, I am overthinking this all more and more at the same time only worsening the situation. That’s why I wanted to ask if others here have any tips or guidance or have been in a similar position? Or should I even get myself checked by a urologist or so?

So I finally found a girl who I lost my virginity to (and vice versa) and am really in love with her. However although I get aroused and erect by her, I have a hard time getting my penis hard enough to penetrate her. We have had sex four times now and I struggled each time with my penis not being hard enough to stay in her vagina although I did manage to be somewhat successful with doing it doggy style.

I haven’t really had the problem whilst receiving oral, although that being said, I don’t know if my penis is 100% hard during that and for a second round we tried last time, I didn’t manage to cum but I guess that’s okay with doing it within 2 hours time. I have also tried to put it on the fact that I’m above average (using XXL condoms) and thus might have a hard time getting into her vagina or that it is because I used to masturbate quite a lot and did a lot of edging, but part of me feels like I’m overthinking.

I guess, or to some extent even hope, that this is the thing namely that it is psychological and will go away over time, on the other hand, I am overthinking this all more and more at the same time only worsening the situation. That’s why I wanted to ask if others here have any tips or guidance or have been in a similar position? Or should I even get myself checked by a urologist or so?