My Girlfriend [32F] of 2 years says she wants to have more sex with me [25M] but she never accepts my advances and uses toys instead- then getting angry with my “lack of trying” /u/Significant-Rub-8384 Sex

How can I let her know I’m trying and I want to have sex just as much as she does?

So like the title says, my girlfriend has been complaining about wanting to have more sex recently and I would love to have more sex. Anyway, I will try making a move and getting us in the mood but she has been non stop rejecting me while at the same time telling me I’m not even trying to have sex with her.

For instance, the other day I bought her favorite schlotskys and set up HBO to were she can stream true blood now and after a little while of her being in a happy zone I tried loving on her and making a move but she told me she’s not feeling it, THIS IS WHERE THINGS FALL APART AND MAKE NO SENSE- about 15 minutes later she gets up I’m assuming to go to the bathroom and I stay watching the TV on the couch. A good amount of time goes by and she comes back and I ask is she okay thinking she has a stomach bug or something and she nonchalantly says yeahhhh I was just “vibing” which is what she calls using her toys. So I naturally am puzzled and probably had a stupid look on my face but I ask her why didn’t she want to have sex with me when I tried just before she went to play by herself and she said something that doesn’t make any sense to me she said it’s because you don’t want to have sex with me or you don’t even try when I literally just tried to before she left to take care of herself. This is just one example but this has been the pattern we are stuck in- I will try initiating freaky time with her and she will deny me and then go play with her toys and complain later that I “never” try.

This has obviously made me feel more insecure than usual and she assures me that she is attracted to me still but that I “never try” and she’s sick of it.

I’ve offered anything she wants but she’s still avoiding me and complaining that I don’t try and that she needs affection from somewhere.

Any advice? I really don’t like this scenario because I’m being blamed when I’m actively trying every day to have sex with her and she denies me and uses the toys and gets mad at me and chews me out for it.

It’s starting to actually weigh on me and make me feel less able to try with her, I can feel it eating at my feelings towards her. I feel manipulated in the sense that I can’t do anything else, I’ve offered her literally everything in the bedroom and she would rather have her toy but tell me she’d rather have me.

TIA for anyone’s help

TLDR; my girlfriend rejects my advances and uses toys instead but complains that she wants more sex with me and I’m not trying when I definitely am.

How can I let her know I’m trying and I want to have sex just as much as she does?

So like the title says, my girlfriend has been complaining about wanting to have more sex recently and I would love to have more sex. Anyway, I will try making a move and getting us in the mood but she has been non stop rejecting me while at the same time telling me I’m not even trying to have sex with her.

For instance, the other day I bought her favorite schlotskys and set up HBO to were she can stream true blood now and after a little while of her being in a happy zone I tried loving on her and making a move but she told me she’s not feeling it, THIS IS WHERE THINGS FALL APART AND MAKE NO SENSE- about 15 minutes later she gets up I’m assuming to go to the bathroom and I stay watching the TV on the couch. A good amount of time goes by and she comes back and I ask is she okay thinking she has a stomach bug or something and she nonchalantly says yeahhhh I was just “vibing” which is what she calls using her toys. So I naturally am puzzled and probably had a stupid look on my face but I ask her why didn’t she want to have sex with me when I tried just before she went to play by herself and she said something that doesn’t make any sense to me she said it’s because you don’t want to have sex with me or you don’t even try when I literally just tried to before she left to take care of herself. This is just one example but this has been the pattern we are stuck in- I will try initiating freaky time with her and she will deny me and then go play with her toys and complain later that I “never” try.

This has obviously made me feel more insecure than usual and she assures me that she is attracted to me still but that I “never try” and she’s sick of it.

I’ve offered anything she wants but she’s still avoiding me and complaining that I don’t try and that she needs affection from somewhere.

Any advice? I really don’t like this scenario because I’m being blamed when I’m actively trying every day to have sex with her and she denies me and uses the toys and gets mad at me and chews me out for it.

It’s starting to actually weigh on me and make me feel less able to try with her, I can feel it eating at my feelings towards her. I feel manipulated in the sense that I can’t do anything else, I’ve offered her literally everything in the bedroom and she would rather have her toy but tell me she’d rather have me.

TIA for anyone’s help

TLDR; my girlfriend rejects my advances and uses toys instead but complains that she wants more sex with me and I’m not trying when I definitely am.