I’m looking for a way to communicate how I’m feeling and see if anyone relates. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, and everything’s great, our sex life is pretty good as well.
However, recently he’s started asking me to do things in bed that are just for his visual benefit, such as, “shake your ass” and “play with your boobs”. And I realized it makes me extremely uncomfortable and takes me out of enjoying the moment. I want to be able to be present and not thinking about what I look like—I actually already do that a lot on my own, like being self conscious about my facial expressions and wanting to always be freshly shaven. But I hate how I already do think of sex so often being about women looking good and pleasing the man, it feels objectifying. But I am happy to do things that are more physical pleasure, because we do that for and with each other.
We’re pretty good at communicating but I feel like this is a weird hang up and it’s very easy for me to hurt his self confidence, I don’t want to discourage him from being open. So does anyone relate and how would you approach this?
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r/sex I’m looking for a way to communicate how I’m feeling and see if anyone relates. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, and everything’s great, our sex life is pretty good as well. However, recently he’s started asking me to do things in bed that are just for his visual benefit, such as, “shake your ass” and “play with your boobs”. And I realized it makes me extremely uncomfortable and takes me out of enjoying the moment. I want to be able to be present and not thinking about what I look like—I actually already do that a lot on my own, like being self conscious about my facial expressions and wanting to always be freshly shaven. But I hate how I already do think of sex so often being about women looking good and pleasing the man, it feels objectifying. But I am happy to do things that are more physical pleasure, because we do that for and with each other. We’re pretty good at communicating but I feel like this is a weird hang up and it’s very easy for me to hurt his self confidence, I don’t want to discourage him from being open. So does anyone relate and how would you approach this? submitted by /u/spicymarg2 [link] [comments]
I’m looking for a way to communicate how I’m feeling and see if anyone relates. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, and everything’s great, our sex life is pretty good as well.
However, recently he’s started asking me to do things in bed that are just for his visual benefit, such as, “shake your ass” and “play with your boobs”. And I realized it makes me extremely uncomfortable and takes me out of enjoying the moment. I want to be able to be present and not thinking about what I look like—I actually already do that a lot on my own, like being self conscious about my facial expressions and wanting to always be freshly shaven. But I hate how I already do think of sex so often being about women looking good and pleasing the man, it feels objectifying. But I am happy to do things that are more physical pleasure, because we do that for and with each other.
We’re pretty good at communicating but I feel like this is a weird hang up and it’s very easy for me to hurt his self confidence, I don’t want to discourage him from being open. So does anyone relate and how would you approach this?
submitted by /u/spicymarg2
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