Despite the fact that I’m obese (21f), my boyfriend (24m) is with me. We’re moving very slow sexually but I’m afraid he will not be attracted to my body /u/20outof10 Sex

We have known each other for a year and been in a relationship for 8 months. We agreed to take it very slow. It is unreal how much patience and care he has shown me, he might be an angel. I trust and love him a lot.

I see him almost every day, and I give him oral 1-3 times per day. It is the only thing I did with my ex and it is my comfort zone, I love it. I think it also might be a way of “proving myself” because what good would I be as a woman if I couldn’t put out anything after 8 months? Lately my bf keeps asking me when he gets to reciprocate oral or take me on a date to pound town 😩

I feel like, mentally, I am completely ready to do everything except have him see me naked. I am 5 foot 7 and 300 pounds. I have disgusting stretch marks and fat rolls. My ex boyfriend, who is my only real sexual experience, called me such endearing terms as “tub of lard”, “beached whale”, and “fat ugly cunt no one wants you”. I know these things were intended to hurt me more than they were intended to express any truth.

But these phrases flash through my head when I’m doing anything with my boyfriend. I’m not a woman sucking dick, I’m a fat woman sucking dick. I wouldn’t be a woman having sex with a man, I would be a fat woman having sex with a man.

The thought of him seeing or feeling my fat body, it just makes me nauseous. Maybe i should talk to him about it, but I choke up every time. It’s been bothering me and I think he can tell that something is up.

Input from fellow obese women or men who have been with obese women is especially appreciated. Am i overthinking this?? I can be assertive and confident in every aspect of my life except this one… how do I get the hell over it?

We have known each other for a year and been in a relationship for 8 months. We agreed to take it very slow. It is unreal how much patience and care he has shown me, he might be an angel. I trust and love him a lot.

I see him almost every day, and I give him oral 1-3 times per day. It is the only thing I did with my ex and it is my comfort zone, I love it. I think it also might be a way of “proving myself” because what good would I be as a woman if I couldn’t put out anything after 8 months? Lately my bf keeps asking me when he gets to reciprocate oral or take me on a date to pound town 😩

I feel like, mentally, I am completely ready to do everything except have him see me naked. I am 5 foot 7 and 300 pounds. I have disgusting stretch marks and fat rolls. My ex boyfriend, who is my only real sexual experience, called me such endearing terms as “tub of lard”, “beached whale”, and “fat ugly cunt no one wants you”. I know these things were intended to hurt me more than they were intended to express any truth.

But these phrases flash through my head when I’m doing anything with my boyfriend. I’m not a woman sucking dick, I’m a fat woman sucking dick. I wouldn’t be a woman having sex with a man, I would be a fat woman having sex with a man.

The thought of him seeing or feeling my fat body, it just makes me nauseous. Maybe i should talk to him about it, but I choke up every time. It’s been bothering me and I think he can tell that something is up.

Input from fellow obese women or men who have been with obese women is especially appreciated. Am i overthinking this?? I can be assertive and confident in every aspect of my life except this one… how do I get the hell over it?