I (25F) and my partner (25NB) have been dating for two years now and we had rough patches or road bumps because sex is non-existent. I had been upfront that I’m hyper sexual in the beginning and they said they liked that. In the beginning we would make out a lot just kissing and when we felt ready to have sex, they couldn’t do it (4 months into the relationship) I really liked them and was understanding and told them it’s ok and we can try again when their ready. We try again next month and it’s me who’s always initiate sexual play not even actual intercourse…didn’t work out and I felt ugly but they promised me they found me attractive. We check with doctors (for ED) and tried sex pills …pretty much anything.
Fast forward we love each other but our sex life doesn’t improve and in fact it got to be even less, them working and I’m working so we get busy…but we have plenty of days or time we choose to take a break and relax together. I’ll initiate it and they half-hearted play with me and kind of treat it like a chore. It makes me feel bad and sad that I feel lonely…sex feels one sided for me and not together.
I always dreamed to have passionate love making cuz I never had real love…I know they love me and have always proven it but when it comes to sex it’s non-existent and they think we do a fair amount but I tell them there is no passion, just feels like a chore for them..I don’t feel their love like when they hug me…I don’t see the want in their eyes..idk how to explain it since I never had loving sex…but I know we aren’t having it.
Tonight I realized they haven’t initiate sex or even just intimate foreplay for over a year now …and the only did it once. I know I probably ruined sex for them because I always complained at least once a month about it. I can’t help it, cuz when I say nothing..it won’t happen..nothing seems to change no matter how many times I try to say it. They end up scoffing, saying they love me, sick of hearing it, why I bring it up randomly, they are tired…, etc…
I don’t want to leave them because besides sex, we click so well and they are very sweet to me and have so much good times. I don’t know what to do. I am trying to get a therapist and they got a therapist already.. idk if they tell their therapist about our sex life…I need real advice.
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r/sex I (25F) and my partner (25NB) have been dating for two years now and we had rough patches or road bumps because sex is non-existent. I had been upfront that I’m hyper sexual in the beginning and they said they liked that. In the beginning we would make out a lot just kissing and when we felt ready to have sex, they couldn’t do it (4 months into the relationship) I really liked them and was understanding and told them it’s ok and we can try again when their ready. We try again next month and it’s me who’s always initiate sexual play not even actual intercourse…didn’t work out and I felt ugly but they promised me they found me attractive. We check with doctors (for ED) and tried sex pills …pretty much anything. Fast forward we love each other but our sex life doesn’t improve and in fact it got to be even less, them working and I’m working so we get busy…but we have plenty of days or time we choose to take a break and relax together. I’ll initiate it and they half-hearted play with me and kind of treat it like a chore. It makes me feel bad and sad that I feel lonely…sex feels one sided for me and not together. I always dreamed to have passionate love making cuz I never had real love…I know they love me and have always proven it but when it comes to sex it’s non-existent and they think we do a fair amount but I tell them there is no passion, just feels like a chore for them..I don’t feel their love like when they hug me…I don’t see the want in their eyes..idk how to explain it since I never had loving sex…but I know we aren’t having it. Tonight I realized they haven’t initiate sex or even just intimate foreplay for over a year now …and the only did it once. I know I probably ruined sex for them because I always complained at least once a month about it. I can’t help it, cuz when I say nothing..it won’t happen..nothing seems to change no matter how many times I try to say it. They end up scoffing, saying they love me, sick of hearing it, why I bring it up randomly, they are tired…, etc… I don’t want to leave them because besides sex, we click so well and they are very sweet to me and have so much good times. I don’t know what to do. I am trying to get a therapist and they got a therapist already.. idk if they tell their therapist about our sex life…I need real advice. submitted by /u/SexyBBWCash [link] [comments]
I (25F) and my partner (25NB) have been dating for two years now and we had rough patches or road bumps because sex is non-existent. I had been upfront that I’m hyper sexual in the beginning and they said they liked that. In the beginning we would make out a lot just kissing and when we felt ready to have sex, they couldn’t do it (4 months into the relationship) I really liked them and was understanding and told them it’s ok and we can try again when their ready. We try again next month and it’s me who’s always initiate sexual play not even actual intercourse…didn’t work out and I felt ugly but they promised me they found me attractive. We check with doctors (for ED) and tried sex pills …pretty much anything.
Fast forward we love each other but our sex life doesn’t improve and in fact it got to be even less, them working and I’m working so we get busy…but we have plenty of days or time we choose to take a break and relax together. I’ll initiate it and they half-hearted play with me and kind of treat it like a chore. It makes me feel bad and sad that I feel lonely…sex feels one sided for me and not together.
I always dreamed to have passionate love making cuz I never had real love…I know they love me and have always proven it but when it comes to sex it’s non-existent and they think we do a fair amount but I tell them there is no passion, just feels like a chore for them..I don’t feel their love like when they hug me…I don’t see the want in their eyes..idk how to explain it since I never had loving sex…but I know we aren’t having it.
Tonight I realized they haven’t initiate sex or even just intimate foreplay for over a year now …and the only did it once. I know I probably ruined sex for them because I always complained at least once a month about it. I can’t help it, cuz when I say nothing..it won’t happen..nothing seems to change no matter how many times I try to say it. They end up scoffing, saying they love me, sick of hearing it, why I bring it up randomly, they are tired…, etc…
I don’t want to leave them because besides sex, we click so well and they are very sweet to me and have so much good times. I don’t know what to do. I am trying to get a therapist and they got a therapist already.. idk if they tell their therapist about our sex life…I need real advice.
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