what helped you view sex more casually and help build sexual confidence? /u/ChoasKingV Sex

27yr old guy here. I’ve been a relationship minded guy most my life. This past year I’ve really been at odds with myself. Ussally I have a hard time looking at women sexually without also viewing a relationship from them at the same time. However this year has been quite the opposite. I have been viewing a lot more women in more of a sexual interest and then feeling bad or wrong that I dont view them like people.

Some of this change probably as to do with a 4 year dry spell as this last year has been very weird for me. Like my subconscious it screaming at me to do the deed. I used to not look at certain women if they didn’t have some relationship qualities. Now I’m noticing I’m looking at women who aren’t even close to relationship type of stuff.

I can feel an urge. But it’s an urge I dont know I should accept or even act on. Let alone how to act on it. How does a guy become okay with more or less using and being used by someone else they dont know well? Do I Religiously hang out at bars alone despite not liking to drink becuase it makes the Tourettes/aspergers worse.

I’m not sure what to do with myself right now. In theory I’m open to something casual. But cant wrap my head around how most people are going about sex and dating without a relationship tied to it. I flat out feel I need to change my life more trying to find a woman for casual sex/ dating than I did a relationship.

27yr old guy here. I’ve been a relationship minded guy most my life. This past year I’ve really been at odds with myself. Ussally I have a hard time looking at women sexually without also viewing a relationship from them at the same time. However this year has been quite the opposite. I have been viewing a lot more women in more of a sexual interest and then feeling bad or wrong that I dont view them like people.

Some of this change probably as to do with a 4 year dry spell as this last year has been very weird for me. Like my subconscious it screaming at me to do the deed. I used to not look at certain women if they didn’t have some relationship qualities. Now I’m noticing I’m looking at women who aren’t even close to relationship type of stuff.

I can feel an urge. But it’s an urge I dont know I should accept or even act on. Let alone how to act on it. How does a guy become okay with more or less using and being used by someone else they dont know well? Do I Religiously hang out at bars alone despite not liking to drink becuase it makes the Tourettes/aspergers worse.

I’m not sure what to do with myself right now. In theory I’m open to something casual. But cant wrap my head around how most people are going about sex and dating without a relationship tied to it. I flat out feel I need to change my life more trying to find a woman for casual sex/ dating than I did a relationship.